When the girls leave what does the guy do. Why do the girls leave? Overview of the "fatal" mistakes of guys
When a woman feels herself a free supplement to a refrigerator, washing machine, microwave or stove, the only desire arises: to prove that she is also a person with her talents, desires, needs, missed opportunities. After all, washed dishes, a clean apartment and cooked dinner are not the easiest task, but even for these seemingly elementary things, according to men, she does not hear simple words thanks. And here a dilemma arises, like that of the young Rodion Raskolnikov: “... I’m a trembling creature or I have the right ...” When self-esteem goes beyond love for her other half, the girl leaves, thereby freeing herself from the bonds of everyday life, eternal cooking and cleaning - she was just tired of serving him.
When a man becomes colorless, dull, dull, grumpy, greedy and uninteresting, thoughts involuntarily appear in his head: “Why am I with him? Why should I endure his hysteria, boorish attitude towards myself, disrespect for my life? ”If a man becomes no, he lacks aspirations and desires, he is immediately abandoned. And after all, a woman in this situation cannot be blamed for anything - no one wants to live with a vegetable.
A significant reason for the breakup will be alcohol addiction guy. The constant use of alcohol alters a person. From a kind, responsive, attentive man, he turns into an aggressive primitive creature. Girl is in constant fearfeeling shame for his other half. All this leads to depression, apathy, and ultimately a nervous breakdown. After endless persuasion, requests, threats, scandals, she decides to leave her former lover, because there is no more strength.
In Russia, women suffer from domestic violence. No matter what caused the beatings, this will certainly happen again. A man who raised his hand to a woman once will feel anarchy and will consider it the norm of behavior. The only correct way out in such a situation is to leave a hopeless and meaningless relationship.
Probably every tenth woman in our country cried at least once in her life because of the betrayal of her beloved. If the connection was random and spontaneous, then many women forgive their man, thinking that this is just sex, momentary weakness without any emotions and feelings. Closing her eyes to the betrayal, the girl thereby approves the guy walking to the left. They become permanent and regular, despite his assurances that this was the first and last time. Each time, learning about a new betrayal, women's self-esteem will fall lower and lower, and at one not-so-wonderful moment, she will feel herself as a sexless creature, not even able to attract the attention of her former half. Tired of lies, constant betrayals and scandals, she leaves.
I really liked the thoughts of one man from Kiev (at least he gives out for his thoughts). Koturga - sorry if I’m slaughter !!!))))
A cool kid is either for youngsters or like a cool shiny rattle, you can walk with him so that your friends envy, but nothing more, it's just a rattle.
Let him curse you with the last words, let him scold, call him an egoist, a pig or a freak. All this is permissible. But if she said: “You are glorious,” her next phrase will be: “Farewell.”
Here is another feature of the notorious female logic. In words, they all dream of modest, kind and polite guys like you and me. In fact, they leave with the last scoundrels. You spread in front of her, threw rose petals under her feet and ran for tampaks. You didn’t do anything bad to her, but she ... She apparently feels a little guilty, so she says goodbye: “You know, you're too good.” What does it mean? We translate: it only means that she cannot breathe the same air with you and will not allow her finger to touch herself anymore.
We all intuitively understand that being too good is bad. Modesty is ridiculous, but the norm is boring. If you have always been right and obedient, then you probably already had the desire to somehow dampen the halo over your head. Becoming bad is not as easy as becoming cool. The first thing that comes to mind is to make fun of bad inclinations. Useless. Smoking, drinking, and the habit of spitting on the floor and swearing are not capable of captivating a woman’s heart. The more such Badman is torn, the more typical Kibalchish with a red diploma and an exemplary tax history is more noticeable in it. So just do not get off the halo. You’ll have to take yourself apart and see why you cause female hatred with your impeccability.
You can call it anything you like - goodness, correctness, boring - but there is a certain set of individually cute qualities, the combination of which makes a person unbearably, disgustingly good from the point of view of a woman. It is quite possible to formulate them.
Complaisance
If a friend’s question: “Where are we going?”, You regularly answer: “Wherever you want, beloved,” then you will soon go yourself, and far away. Even if a woman is active and likes to make decisions herself, the initiative should come from the man. “What would you like to do today, dear?” Ha! Better ask if she got fat. To please her whims, to do everything as she wants - favorite hobby all the good guys. Meanwhile, with each decision made by her, hostility towards your passivity increases. And do not try to follow up on the female paradox: all of them admit that it’s very pleasant to make a choice, without denying, however, that they are getting bored of the need to do it.
Caution
She is uncertainty, fear of making a mistake. Useful quality, right? They can not stand it in men. If you do not want to disappoint her, it is better to do an idiotic act right away than to endlessly hesitate between two worthy decisions. Once, a friend and I were sitting in a restaurant. A very effective waitress approached us, and my good (very good) friend began to flirt with her. His impulse met reciprocity, everything went fine until it came to order. The problem of choice squinted my friend. For about fifteen minutes he moved his lips over the menu until he limited the circle of applicants to two dishes - sturgeon and shrimp. After which it hangs. The waitress stood above us, rage appeared on her pretty face. My friend hesitated and giggled.
“I'll come later,” she finally squeezed out and ran away.
“She liked me, huh?” - said my friend, smiling moron.
“Yes, she decided that you are very good,” I answered.
We never saw her again.
Friendliness
Good guys are always friends with everyone, everyone loves them. This does not occur from innate charm, but simply from fear of conflict. Why, there, giving up a little pride, apologizing once again, humiliating yourself a little - but you will not make enemies. Women cannot stand this. She will lead you by the sleeve from the bully who offended her. But if you let her take herself away, she will despise you all the time remaining until the soon separation.
A friend of mine, known for her kindness and peacefulness, told me that she had become such a pacifist because of her husband. He was panicky afraid of conflict, jammed all ugly situations, smiled guiltily, apologized every minute. She could not look at it. As a result, she had to learn how to smooth out the sharp corners of the first, only to once again not see her husband ingratiating and humiliated.
The most interesting thing is that by forgiving everyone and everything, you eventually achieve the opposite effect - they begin to wipe their feet about you. After this, the slightest attempt to regain the lost dignity causes an attack of hatred among others - our toilet mat has revolted! And vice versa, in every collective there is a jolly man who hangs poisonous remarks to the right and left. For some reason they always love them.
Masculinity
A good guy knows how to be a man. He despises extravagant clothes, long hair and tattoos (even transferable). He never cries and is afraid of nothing. He loves football and beer. Does everything seem to be right? Even too much. The problem is the word never. You can’t give such signs of masculinity to great importance. Just as you can’t even take yourself too seriously. If you cannot imagine yourself at work in crumpled trousers in a nightmare, you dare not say “I don’t like beer” and you don’t recognize DiCaprio at gunpoint good actor - you a real man. An eighth grader from a distant northern town will be crazy for you, the rest will die of boredom.
Listening skills
Good guys are great listeners. it great quality may serve you poorly in the seduction phase. For example, for a very long time I was proud of my ability to promote an unfamiliar woman into a frank conversation, until I discovered that this does not lead to a romantic rapprochement. Having carefully listened to all her confessions, you become a girlfriend for a woman, although you have planned a completely different role for yourself. And she, revealing to you secrets of the heart, feels that she is no longer mysterious, and loses sexual interest in you.
So now I listen to women exactly until they begin to share the innermost. Then I carefully translate the conversation on another topic. You seem to have read somewhere that women should be listened to? So, women's magazines write the same thing - listen to the man if you want him to like. The conclusion is simple: if she only wants to talk and speak, then she doesn’t interest you. If you don’t want to be a vest on duty, have a playful dialogue and don’t cross the border of frankness.
Predictability
It’s good to live according to a clearly defined plan. Always be in a good mood, come to a meeting in advance, play billiards on Fridays, do not eat greasy. We ourselves have written many times about how great it is. But there is a limit to everything. If your communication with the world is stable, like the schedule of a German commuter train, only a walking slide rule can live with you. One hundred percent predictable person begins to enrage, like a jammed record, even with a very good song. You need to allow yourself some gamble, sometimes be able to send everything to hell, break the rules and make a mistake. Healthy indifference should be present in a man, like seasoning in a meat dish. Presnyatin can only be eaten very hungry.
Industriousness
What woman does not want her chosen one to make good money and firmly stand on her feet? However, very often we see how the wives of workaholics howl from anguish and flee to freedom, just to not hear again about business plans and taxes. A person who is completely absorbed in work is not able to enjoy his success. Distant descendants, having fun at the estate, may remember the ancestor with a kind word. But first, you need someone to agree to have these descendants with you. After all, you are always at work.
Do not take the above calculations as a call to send everything and everything in three letters and the rest of the days to listen " Civil defense"In the ashes of his life. The problem, as has already been noted, is the combination of these truly good qualities individually. Just sometimes you need to relax and laugh at the rules and principles.
The reasons for girls leaving boys may be different.
After all, there is always some kind that prevents two young people from remaining inseparable.
There is an opinion that the girls still want to take a walk, like I want to show that they still want me. Tired of one guy and it seems that he can find someone better. And how is it really?
We will try to understand this issue in more detail and give some advice.
Girls leave for the following reasons
- She's just tired of your relationship which were monotonous and monotonous, but she wants to constantly spend time interestingly. You simply bothered her, and to put it more strictly, she was still too young and simply did not walk up.
- Did not get along - usually this formulation is very popular, when parting, with young couples. Perhaps, after a certain period of relations, she will know you more and understand that your character is not the one she needs.
The girl being with you experiences stress, constant problems and, finally, leaves. Sometimes the answer “did not agree with the characters” may hide domestic and social nuances.
- She needs someone like her ex. Maybe she already met someone before you and it was ideal for her, but for some reason they broke up, but she wants to find the same one again, and you don’t fall under this type. This is a matter of habit. The girl is used to some kind of behavior and some actions, and you cannot recreate it.
Why do girls leave and how to keep them?
The best advice in this case. - just let her go. No matter how you try, you cannot please her. There are such types of girls who are so attached to a certain model of relationships from a long time ago (possibly transmitted from their mother) that it is almost impossible for her to reconstruct.
Even if you become a henpecked woman, you won’t be able to please such a girl, and sooner or later she’ll leave, well, or you yourself won’t withstand such a relationship. Therefore, you do not need to hold it, try, if it is, and start new lifebut without her even in her thoughts.
- All this quickly leads to a break. Perhaps you have experienced the bitterness of parting more than once, and you wanted to know why it happened. Or maybe you are in a relationship now and feel that they have become much worse than they were before. Why do girls leave when they are so needed ...
To protect yourself from mistakes you need to know why girls leave guys and not make such mistakes.
Why do girls leave: analysis of the reasons
- Fatigue from negativity and jealousy
Jealousy on the part of the guy and the clarification of relationships are perceived by girls as a sign of self-doubt. Attraction begins to decrease immediately after the guy first showed his jealousy. At such moments, a certain click occurs in the head of a woman, which reduces your valuelike men.
It’s one thing when jealousy is very small. Since it is useful in small doses: it allows any girl to feel loved, and limits her communication with other guys. However, everything changes when jealousy becomes strong and constant clarification of relationships occurs.
- “Deification” (yes, yes ... Why do girls leave when they are so “appreciated”)
When a guy does not know how to get acquainted and seduce girls, he unconsciously idealizes the one with whom he managed to start dating. And it ceases to see any flaws in it.
His other half could show disrespect several times or show themselves clearly not in the best light, but the guy refuses to notice it.
He suffers a bad attitude towards himself, considering him to be the norm, and treats her like a goddess. Of course, any woman will quickly get tired of such an attitude, and soon a lot will have to be done to her.
- Lack of capacity
- you don't like your work
- you are not happy with your life
- you are used to criticizing everyone and everything, instead of changing everything in your power
- Do you consider drinking alcohol on weekends to be the best vacation?
then you are unlikely to be interesting for girls. Moreover, even notvery popular girls will unknowingly focus on finding other (more motivated) men.
The passion that blows from a man carried away by his goals is very sexual in the understanding of women.
By the way, the lack of worthy goals and hobbies can automatically cause the next error.
- Availability
Remember your previous relationship with the girls and those in which you are now and answer: did you always agree to the meetings (or the time and place of the meeting) that she initiated? Have you been waiting for her to devote some time to you?
If you are ready to forget about your affairs and wait when she finds the time for you, then sooner or later (more often this happens immediately :)), the girl will cease to appreciate you. Everything that is available has little or no value at all.
- Desire to sound like a good guy
After listening to conversations about the preferences of some girls, in which they talk about kindness and care, as the inherent qualities of a man, guys try to always show them everywhere.
But in fact, such actions cannot be called natural, because they do not come from the real desires of the guys, but from their desire to please.
Therefore they:
- endure rudeness
- always behave well
- too polite (especially with a girl)
- they are afraid of “punching the table”, because think that she will be offended and will leave
The result: loss of interest and separation. If the guys followed their true inner desires, they would have been much more successful in their personal lives.
- Indulging fleeting desires
By the way, very often these desires are invented by the girl herself. For example, in order to test a man for the ability to establish any framework for her. It is this ability - index internal strength men.
“Oh, I think I wanted to eat”, “I don’t want to go to the cinema, but I want to go to the bowling”, “I don’t want to go to the cafe, but I want to go to the cinema”, “We’ll go not here, but it’s better to go there” and requests for help are all this can be attributed to the whims of the female half of humanity. Why do the girls leave? The weakness of men decides.
It’s one thing when such desires appear quite rarely, and quite another when she does her best to push you towards their fulfillment. First, usually, small requests come, and then more serious ones.
Giving her "sit on your neck", you risk forever staying from below! Of course, this does not mean that you always need to do only what you want. Sometimes you can give way. But in most cases, your decisions are more important, because .
- Inability to stand up for themselves and their values
No matter what stage of the relationship you are in, it will always be watch your reaction in those moments when others will try to infringe on your rights or show disrespect. Moreover, she herself will unconsciously test you for strength, treating you not in the best way.
“If he cannot stand up for himself, then he is unlikely to protect me and our children” - such an idea will immediately visit a woman when you allow someone to “wipe your feet against you”.
- Dependence on her reaction
According to certain signs, the girl will very quickly determine how confident you are. And you will show your qualities either without noticing it yourself, or with the help of girl checks.
For example, you can tell her about yourself and wait for approval. And it will be noticeable! Or, a girl can make a strange expression on her face at some point in your story (or say something) and watch your reaction.
If you even think for a second about why she said or did this, then consider that you showed weakness.
You’ll still show a couple of such “weaknesses”, and then interest will be completely lost. She may continue to meet with you, but the probability of her departure (or betrayal) will be very high.
Knowing why girls leave boys, you can not only correctly return them, but also in the future will not allow them to leave.
Men make these mistakes under the pressure of their own emotions and weaknesses. But emotions have never been an ally of a man. Especially in difficult moments of a relationship! Remember this when the temptation to show weakness reappears.
Now you know why girls go and sometimes go to others. Make no mistakes! Good luck with everything. And be sure to subscribe to my newsletter - you will receive valuable tips and advice on how to return ex girlfriend as soon as possible.
