Why do girls cheat? Why is the lover the woman he always wants




Female infidelity is less common than male novels on the side, but, nevertheless, there is a place to be female cheating   there is one distinctive feature   - the couple’s relationship at the time the girl committed the betrayal can be ideal, therefore, men can not understand - why are the chosen ones still cheating on them? Let's figure it out together that can push a girl to infidelity to a partner.

Reasons for female infidelity

First   and the most common reason for female adultery is a lack of attention to the girl. In the candy-bouquet period, men are attentive to any desire of the chosen one, devote a lot of time to her and her problems, and after the start life together, having ascertained their victory over the female heart, they cease to notice even a change in the image and hairstyles of the bride or wife. Such changes are disastrous for relationships, because women live with emotions and attention - they need to be praised, given flowers, noted the beauty of their outfits. If a woman suddenly feels herself forgotten and unnecessary - she may want other relationships full of romance and care.

The first and most common reason for female adultery is a lack of attention to the girl.

Second reason   oddly enough, there may be an oversupply of female infidelity. Young people sometimes go too far with signs of attention - they send messages 20 times per hour, call at any time of the day or night, some even follow their loved ones. It is not surprising to get tired of such an abundance of attention quickly and want to look for a calmer harbor for romantic feelings.

Third reason for infidelity in women is that some insecure young people too prolong the Platonic period in a relationship. If a girl is a passionate and passionate nature, then wait a long time, when, finally, the fan decides from words to go to action - she will not, but will try to find what she wants on the side.

Reason number four   is dissatisfaction in sexual relations. Women no less than men want to enjoy sex, and harmony in sexual life is important for women's health. If a male partner does not try to be pleasant in bed and is not interested in what can give a woman pleasure, then he may expect an unpleasant surprise - he will find a replacement.

Fifth reason   revenge can become female infidelity: for example, a girl found out that a guy was cheating on her with another and wanted to pay the wrong one with the same coin. It remains only to recall folk wisdom, which states - "do with others as you want to be done to you."

Sixth reason   infidelity on the part of a woman implies a fraud in a relationship from the very beginning: we are talking about situations when young girls begin to meet wealthy men for the sake of a beautiful life and expensive gifts, but at the same time they have a boyfriend of their age in friends and lovers. In this case, condemning only one side - the insidious traitor - is stupid, because an adult man must be able to distinguish love from calculation.

Seventh preposition   for a female adultery imprisoned in routine and life everyday life. Some men getting married or wound up long relationship   with a lady of the heart, at some point they stop taking care of themselves, become untidy, cease to be embarrassed by bad and ugly habits. Life kills love - this is not a quote from the classics, this is a practice from life. In romantic and family relationships do not need to stop observing elementary rules   hygiene and ethics, motivating their own sloppiness with stupid - "loves - is stern." No one is obliged to love a slut or an alcoholic and spend the best years of his life on him.

Women do not like weak and insecure men. This axiom is eighth reason   cheating by girls. It is inherent in nature that women are initially disposed to give preference to men with strong character   and capable of action.

If interested, for what reason, then read this article.

Ninth reason lies in the partner’s behavior in life, or rather in his mood with which he perceives life. If a man sees everything in a black light and constantly prophesies sorrow, poverty and other troubles - no woman can stay with such a pessimist for a long time.

Tenth occasion   for treason is hidden in the character of a woman. All people are different and there are girls with such a pronounced libido that just one sexual partner is simply not enough for them. In this case, it is useless to do anything: the born coquette will seek maximum male attention all their lives.


First, let's look at the most likely signs of treason. So:

1. Each person has his own personal space. A man’s limited access to this space may be the first sign of adultery. In this case, access to a computer or telephone may be denied.

2. A sharp change in appearance, the acquisition of new things, while not taking into account men's opinions, may be the second sign of treason. New makeup, new clothes and new look   not for someone nearby.

3. New girlfriend with new life. She is better off spending more time with her than spending it on you. He tries to ignore relations with you, does not call with you and chooses moments so that you cannot go with her.

4. Coldness in bed is another sign of adultery. She avoids sex, and go to bed with you in different time. Interest is lost.

5. Loss of respect, ridicule, and emphasis on flaws are signs that attention is focused on another man.

6. Arrival later than usual and a lot of work - pretexts for hanging out with another man.

7. In order not to feel guilty, she can offer you some fun too. So you will not demand from her sex that is not pleasing. Communication is minimized.

What are the reasons for the betrayal of a girl?

1. For the sake of a career. In this case, purely business sex may occur on certain days. The boss laid eyes on a pretty employee (your girlfriend) and invites to a cafe or restaurant. Flowers, champagne, sweets and hints. Exit or leave work or seek a career through sex.

2. Because of money and gifts. Girls love a beautiful life, strive for wealth. She loves you and expects a bouquet of gorgeous roses from you. These are her favorite flowers. You bring her carnations. She wants to spend your vacation abroad with you, and you are taking her to the village to your mother. This beautiful lifePerhaps she does not promise anything serious, but psychologically her expectations come true at least for a while.

3. Out of revenge. Revenge must be cold and prudent. This is exactly what revenge is preferred by girls, especially those who are deprived of male attention. If you yourself have cheated on her, do not wait for understanding on her part, but be prepared for revenge. Are you offended? What about her?

4. Due to sexual dissatisfaction. Do you often talk with your girlfriend about how she likes sex and how many times she needs it a month or a week? Girls can simulate an orgasm. And the simulation does not give pleasure to either one or the other half. This is one of the most serious reasons why cheating occurs. "He is very good for life, but no sex" - these are the words of the girl. Such a girl seeks sexual satisfaction on the side. The psychological reason can be much deeper, for example, in low self-esteem.

5. Everything is tired! The nit-picking, bad character, high demands on her as a mistress and wife can contribute to treason. She is not a “house of tolerance," so that she can endure and restrain everything. So the end comes, and she finds herself in bed with another. She wants to be heard and satisfied. If you don’t do it, someone else will do it. She is attractive and interesting. Standing aside, you will think: “Why did she do this to you?” Cheating does not mean that you have bad sex. Just you difficult person   with a ton of principles and rules.

6. Randomly. I changed it, because I went through alcohol, and someone pretty threw her home. Feels miserable and lonely, although you are nearby. Apparently, you did not pay attention to her or did not speak with her in the language of her love. So she solves her problems as she herself can.

7. She was seduced. You know each other perfectly and understand perfectly. Your thoughts are understandable to each other, and you have removed a number of men's responsibilities. They stopped giving flowers, making compliments, meeting in the evening from work. Your relationship is stable. Women are emotional and they need necessarily new novels, feelings, fresh relations. Ceased to surprise - another will be engaged in it.

In order not to betray the girl, love and understand her, accept as she is, do not try to change. Treason is always unpleasant. Remember, a girl can change as a last resort or she is simply not your soul mate. But both are always to blame for treason, and not one. Think it over.

In life, there are often cases when a girl cheats on her lover. And it’s not at all that he beats her or does not love her. Relations between them can be just exemplary, and against this background it is not at all clear why the girl has a desire to sleep with another. The reasons why women are cheated on men, girls are very different, sometimes tragic, sometimes funny. I think almost all men will be interested to know why girls cheat on guys.

What are the causes of female infidelity? What kind of mistakes in the relationship do not suit the beloved, why do women cheat on husbands? What can lead a beautiful female head to such a terrible thought? After all, in the beginning, everything was perfect. The guy could not even imagine the likelihood of such a course of events. And no one can believe that the person with whom you shared everything can change you. It’s like a knife to get in the back ... Just in this article we will understand why they do it and what they didn’t receive in the relationship.

Main reasons

1. A man does not pay enough attention to a girl.   It often happens that in the first period of a relationship, a guy tries to do everything to conquer a girl. But, having achieved the desired, the man calms down and begins to think that nothing else needs to be done, they say, the girl will not go anywhere. Female psychology requires constant attention, constant care, courtship. His attention switches to friends, booze, partying. She doesn’t like it much, she wants to be loved and desired as before, so first she swears. Or the guy can devote a lot of time to work. And the girl is relegated to the background. And this is a huge misconception. At first, the girl will just be angry, but over time, she can compensate for the lack of attention by someone else.


2. Cheating can be obtained by paying too much attention. Guys often do not know the measures in their efforts for the beloved. The reasons for female adultery are the psychology of men that the chosen one needs to be surrounded by complete control, to monitor her every action. There are simply annoying people who call her five times a day. Each time they repeat how much they love her, and they cannot live without her. Throw SMSa in unlimited quantities. Words are certainly good, but if there are too many of them, then the female heart begins to suspect something is amiss. Well, or she begins to get tired of the abundance of romance. This is all not so bad. I repeat again - the girl needs romance. But everything is good in moderation. For example, you can say about your love once a week and from a pure heart. Although, she will probably be few once a week. In general, everything should be in moderation.

Everything becomes completely different if declarations of love sound 7 seven times a day, and they are followed by another 10 SMS about love. Moreover, the text of SMS does not change much, as well as the words that a man repeats to his beloved. After all, he does not have much imagination, but to search on the Internet is too lazy. And so every day. In the end, she will get tired of listening to the same thing. The young woman will be confident in her power over the guy, and will consider that she will not be anything even in the event of treason, and the romantic will still remain with her. To put it mildly, you will go into her category of “heels”, which you can twist in any case. That's why all this romance is needed, but moderately. Let the girl also stay at your place for the night. Do not leave her alone with best friendsbecause often they say a lot of bad things behind your back. If the young lady slept with another, and you are confused, I advise you to read the article: "What if the beloved cheated on you?"

3. Platonic relations.

Yes, yes it happens too. And often this happens precisely because of the male sex, as if there were a paradox. The guy does not have the courage. To be afraid that the girl will refuse in the first proximity, and the relationship will be ruined. He is shy, translates relations purely into a platonic form. And delay this moment as long as possible. And the girl is already burning with passion, so much is her desire to make love with him. After all, in fact, in a pretty head of an innocent young lady, many obscene and even lascivious thoughts are curling. They devour it from within, making the libido fidget impatiently. But he does not dare to take the first step, as he is afraid to seem easily accessible.

After a while, her interest in such a guy cools. The girl might think if the guy is impotent? And this is the only logical thought in a healthy and beautiful girl. Or she may bump into that which is terrible and does not attract you as a man. And this can cause treason. In the second case, she decides to test her charm and beauty on someone else. Therefore, try not to pull the rubber longer than necessary, but rather, satisfy the desire of your beloved. Relationships without bodily pleasures are impossible. Perhaps somewhere in a parallel universe there are similar relationships, but on Earth they are necessarily accompanied by proximity.

4. The guy cannot satisfy his beloved.

Young ladies get no less pleasure from making love than guys, so this is very important for them. And if a man cannot give pleasure to his beloved, this can become a cause of betrayal, however sad it may be. Moreover, this is the main reason why they change married women. Perhaps the guy is not experienced enough, over time, this question will disappear on its own. It is a completely different matter if he has physiological problems. He quickly ends, and can not bring the girl to great pleasure. This happens quite often. These problems must be solved. After all, an unsatisfied girl may go to look for pleasure on the side. She will not abandon her husband and her family, but she will not want to live unsatisfied. She needs passion and good sex   no less than a healthy man. Therefore, adultery often occurs due to the insolvency of one of them in bed.

5. The guy is cheating on a girl.

A man wants to test himself with another girl. And the truth comes out sooner or later. And here it is up to the girl to forgive him or not. If he loves, he’ll probably forgive. But on an opportunity, she might want to sleep with handsome guy. She will think: “If he can, then why shouldn’t I?” And this will be her position, and your relationship will only lose. Not only that, she may well have slept with all his friends purely out of a sense of revenge.

I think you should not try to cheat on her. Because if you think that you have found exactly the one with which you are ready to live until the end of your life, then it means that it should satisfy you. Loving person she sees only the good in her soul mate, and she suits him completely. In another way, just nothing. And if you do not get pleasure with her, then listen to my advice, find yourself another that will fit in all respects. Favorite girl in any way will bring much more pleasure than sex with a stranger and unfamiliar woman. And in the event that your relationship involves only making love and nothing more, then do not worry if she is sleeping with someone or not. On the contrary, you’re better. The girl will become more experienced. The main thing is not to forget to be protected. And checked by a doctor for skin and genital diseases.

6. Relationships are for profit only.

Sometimes it happens when beautiful girl   initially looking for a rich man who will give her expensive gifts. This is just a simple money scam on her part. She is not going to sleep with him or sleeps in literally   for money. Naturally they have sex without a twinkle, the girl imitates a “log” from herself. The topic is discussed in detail in the article: “You pay everything for the girl, but she doesn’t give, what’s the matter?” The thing is that this man cannot excite her. She likes men of a completely different type. And most likely, she has a boyfriend for making love. You can’t even call it treason, but it’s just a calculating money divorce. Such moments need to be seen in advance and not give in to provocation.

And what to do? On this I will finish considering the causes of treason. I hope you now understand the causes of female adultery and know how to “fight” them. If, after reading the article, you understand your mistakes, do not despair. We are all mistaken.

It’s hard to build a great relationship the first time around. Just work on them and get better. Questions such as why girls cheating on guys will disappear by themselves, since the young lady is already at the bottom that will not exchange such a funky guy for someone else. Now, as an expert, you can confidentially tell your friends why they are cheating.

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The answer is actually not as complicated as it might seem, but for a start I would like you to know that this is the prevention of many problems, including female adultery.

Reasons for female infidelity:

  1. A woman is very unhappy with the current relationship with a man, but somehow depends on him (money, housing, children, sex). She had already begun the search for another man. But she will not leave the first, until she meets the one who will be significantly better. In general, such a search can drag on indefinitely (count to old age), or it may end in success in a few weeks. It also happened!
  2. The man cheats on a regular basis, the woman found out and also decided to go left. A very common reason. It is very surprising when the question “Why do girls cheat” is asked by a man who had sex with at least ten new women during a relationship with a particular girl.
  3. Bad sex. Another very common reason. There are two options - either he was always bad, or he became one in the process of relations as a result of eating. An unsatisfied partner begins to be satisfied on the side.
  4. Not a strong desire for a man. Usually arises in a relationship of convenience, when a girl begins to communicate with a guy purely for her material gain (money, social status, housing). In the beginning, the girl behaves well - because she is afraid to miss the benefit. But when she becomes confident that the relationship is unlikely to end (for example, after marriage or the birth of a child), a woman may well begin to cheat regularly.
  5. Something in you has become wrong - you have cooled, stopped giving her those emotions that were at the beginning of the relationship, became indifferent, pay little attention, stopped appreciating her ... She is trying to find all this with other men.
  6. Of revenge. The woman wanted you to take revenge for something - for example, for what is indicated in the previous paragraph. Or for something else. Usually this is characteristic of very impulsive and expressive young ladies.
  7. The balance of power in the pair has changed, a woman has grown much more during a relationship than a man. For example, at the beginning of the relationship, the guy worked as a small office clerk, the girl was a student. After 5 years, the guy remained what he was, the girl became a middle manager with great prospects. A man who a priori should be a few goals above the girl, on the contrary, dropped below the baseboard. More precisely, he did not fall, but the young lady overtook him. The man is almost no longer interested in her. In addition, in her circle of friends there are many men with a much higher status than him. In this case, a high probability of not only betrayal, but also parting. By the way, such men also often ask the question “Why do women cheat”.
  8. Boredom + the appearance of some interesting man. Usually typical for those couples where the man works a lot, and the woman or housewife, or is on maternity leave.
  9. Emotional instability of a man. It happens quite rarely. But, nevertheless, sometimes it happens. Usually manifested by screams and hysteria. Most often, such a thing is characteristic of women. But there are exceptions. A woman can become so wound up that she wants to find solace on the side.
  10. Increased jealousy from a man. Excessive jealousy (especially if it is baseless) can be so overwhelming that a woman will start to think something like this: “If he is 1000% sure that I am changing, let it be so. At least I will no longer have to make excuses for what has never happened. In addition, Zhenya / Petya / Kolya, my colleague / friend / brother of my girlfriend, has been harassing me for six months now. And what, he is very good ... ".
  11. Lack of jealousy on the part of men. Paradox, huh? And here they are, women. A lot of jealousy - bad, little - is also not good. If there is no jealousy, some women think that passion has disappeared and the man does not give a damn about her.
  12. Came back former love. The woman in the past had a very big love, relations with which at some point ended. A woman has built a relationship with another man. Time has passed (sometimes - a lot). And then, suddenly, the old love returned ... There was one meeting, then another, and then another, and then sex. And away we go!
  13. Polygamy of a woman. Quite a rare reason. Wean such a girl from cheating will be very difficult. In general, there is a mistake here when choosing a girl for a relationship. You do not need to take such ladies in a relationship.
  14. Suddenly in love with another. Sometimes it happens. Especially if the girl is amorous.
  15. Accidentally changed. It also happens periodically. Especially in the club, especially after a good dose of alcohol.

And, of course, we must not forget that very often the case is not limited to just one reason.

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1. The wife deprives the spouse of a feeling of fullness and self-sufficiency

In our society, many men do not feel self-sufficient always and everywhere.

At first time family relationships   the inner void of the husband is closed by his wife. They think they will love each other forever.

A wife for him is a woman who will always be with him.

Now he feels self-sufficient and safe.

In your family, you yourself can deprive each other of thatthat then you start looking in other people:

A wife may begin to deprive her husband of a sense of self-reliance and confidence   during frequent scandals, domestic problems or misunderstandings. This happens when the couple is very long together.
Time passes, the wife no longer gives that lovewhich she gave before. And the husband is looking for her in the arms of his mistress.
Spouse no longer gives this feeling of fullness and harmony, the husband begins to look for this feeling on the side.

If all this happens exactly in your relationship, that is why a married man will have a mistress.

This is a problem not only of the spouse, but also of the husband. He had to increase his level of awareness, work on himself and be self-sufficient in itself, without relying on external factors.

2. He found a lover with whom just cool

With a wife, a husband often does not feel cool. With a wife - this is a family, this is love, idyll and children.

And there is another girl with whom it is cool!

We will reveal in more detail the question of why men make loversand the psychology of their thinking, why do they secretly spend time with them:

A lover helps her husband mentally escape from family and domestic problems.
  He has a lover with whom he wants intimacy and who really turns on.
  He turns himself on to a girl who delights him.
  The lover gives those new emotions and sensations that the wife does not give.
  With this new woman, he can talk about those things that he will never talk to his wife.

3. Routine, addiction and monotony in the family

Husbands cheat on wives because they want diversity. They want adventure, something new.

A family should not have a routine life.

A person cannot eat the same yogurt in the morning, at lunch, in the evening and at night. You will not be able to eat this yogurt for two weeks every day, because it is not normal and you will get tired of it.

The same thing can happen in your family.

4. Between you lost attraction and chemistry

Attraction and chemistry in the relationship lasts 0.5 - 2 years maximum. Then it all ends.

The opinion of scientists about why husbands are cheating on wives is to get used to the partner's pheromones. Because of this addiction, you are already fed up with each other.

These are the realities of life. Everything can be fed up.

5. Spouse polygamy and before that lived in a free relationship

On the topic of what his psychology is and why men cheat on girls, it will be correct to mention the following facts:

Your spouse cannot immediately suppress her instinctsif earlier he gave them full will. He cannot stop and no longer look at other women.
No matter how much the wolf feeds, it still looks into the forest.
If a man in life is an alpha male, hunter and lover, then it will be hard for him to suppress this in himself.
The guy wants to live according to his intentions and desiresbut he cannot do it openly and is cheating.

Therefore, it closes up cool lovers with whom it’s cool and with which you can temporarily forget about family life   and all the problems arising from it.

6. She gives all her time to the child

If a child has appeared in your family, then mother will spend a lot of time at first only with him.

How a child affects your sex life:

These are constant screams at night that will not let you rest together.
  This is baby care, diapers, breastfeed.
  A woman after childbirth cannot make love.
  Sometimes, when a baby sucks milk from her mother, breastfeeding is a pleasure for some women. And the wife no longer so wants to spend time in bed with her husband.

From here, as a rule, life in bed in your family goes by the wayside.

But the husband finds no other way out than to extinguish his passion with his mistress.

In this case, the psychology is that husbands cheat on their wives and want more at night, but they do not want to leave their family and child.

7. You have everything bad in bed, dissatisfaction

Some women are not yet fully aware of their femininity and attractiveness.

Your mating games in bed may not satisfy the partner.

Not all women master their bed skills for the following reasons.:

The wife is very young and not so experienced.
Some girls are very pinched, do not know how to express their passion and love at night.
Lack of education   and limitations in knowledge.
Not all wives want to accept the fantasies of their men. A man by nature loves to translate his extreme fantasies into reality. Some refuse to experiment at all.

If a man tried this way and that, but it doesn’t change or bring diversity to bed, out of desperation he can find a lover.

Or even just find a girl walking for one night.

After all, if the wife is very bad in bed, a man can find a girl who is in many ways just better.

Spouse can find that girl on the side, which makes him just carry the brain in bed. He will secretly admire her and not tell you.

About a different smell

Not all men know that the wife always recognizes the smell of another woman. Even if the spouse went to the shower or scented, she intuitively understands and feels everything. The man suspects nothing, and the woman delves into her head and asks herself the question: “Why do guys cheat on their girls?”

And the husband can still naively believe that everything is under control, and he owns the situation. He does not even suspect that the spouse recognized the smell of another.

8. Because of the perception “You can change, if only no one knows”

Due to television and mass media in the brain young man   from birth, they lay the idea that married men   must change.

Guys cheat, although they love their girlfriend, because for them it is considered the norm and commonplace, as if in the order of things.

In some families, wives directly make it clear to the partner: “ If you cheat on me, it’s so that I don’t recognize».

They really voice it and say, and the spouse remembers and draws conclusions.

Of course, then the wife will regret what was said if betrayal comes up.

9. To create jealousy or out of a sense of revenge

Some men are very jealous.   They can be driven by selfish motives for treason.

That is, even because of the simple   feelings of envy or feelings of inferiority   the husband wants to make his wife jealous.

Also, the reason may be that the wife spent time with the wrong people or cheated on him once.

Then the man will want to fill a hole in his self-esteem and amuse his vanity on the side, taking revenge on his wife.

For example, he sees his wife talking at some holiday and flirting with other men.

Her husband is often jealous of all peasants in a row.

He remembers all this, and is looking for a lover in order to be jealous of him now.

10. Male patriarchy

Unconsciously, a man has the following belief: “ I can do it with anyone I want, but the girl doesn’t". Maybe for girls this will be a shocking answer to the question of why men cheat. But this is how our society works.

That is, in this case, the husband puts his interests above his wife and allows himself to go left.

A man thinks that he has some privilegesdue to patriarchy in the family.

Also, the reason for the betrayal may be that in childhood, the husband’s father also cheated on his wife.

Now an adult repeats the mistakes of parents.

11. Selfish motives

The desire to prove to myself and friends "what a cool lover I am"

The reasons for the husband's betrayal may be the following selfish motives:

To amuse your ego, to feel superior.
Satisfy your libido.
FROM early childhood   there was a lack of female attention.   And now, when the man found out that you could always have attention, you just need to do something, the man starts into the unknown.
Out of a desire to assert itself to friends, get their approval, so they told him: “Wow! Probably fried ?! Wow, man! ”
He wants to prove to himself that he is capable of owning   other women.
  After all, he had never been given this before.
  Friends of the husband are single and they always have something to tell about their adventures. The husband also decided that it was time to brag about something and went to the left.
That is the reason for boasting to friends.

12. The woman stopped caring and taking care of herself

Because the husband has already subdued his wife and won her heart. Now there’s nobody to conquer.

The wife relaxes, and this is what happens to her:

Years later, the wife ceases to monitor her figure, she is already satisfied with a thick belly.
  Now she does not dress as beautifully as before, she wears a kitchen dressing gown and hair curlers.
  A spark in her eyes, a highlight and femininity disappeared in her.
  A woman ceases to attract.

If all this happens, it is not surprising that the hot beauty from work replaced his wife in bed.

Of course, a woman does not have to always be beautiful, but she must be conscious and confident, radiate love.

13. By accident of alcohol

There is one expression that sounds like "saw the night, walked all night until the morning."

And if the men walked all night until morning with alcohol and surrounded beautiful women , then a drunk husband by the end of the evening may forget about his wife.

After all, an appetizing beauty sits on it and around is full of alcohol. Then the man changes because the man’s gaze sees only girls with a good figure, who, moreover, are not breathing evenly towards him.

Because of alcohol, he forgets about that one.

He no longer really controls his speech and actions.

Treason occurs unconsciously.

This happens both in clubs and at noisy parties, holidays and other drunken places.

Why does the husband say nothing and remain in the family

Let us close once and for all the question of why men cheat on their wives, but do not leave them. The most common are the following reasons:

He does not need all this mess with the division of property.
  He does not want to pay child support all his life if he has a child.
  He does not want to go to court and fill out all these papers.
He does not want to break the family idyll.
  The husband wants the child to grow up with his father.
  He does not need quarrels and scandals.
  He has a family hearth, where there is security, harmony, food and sleep. Why break it?
  He is so good and cool when you can sleep with two girls.
  He is satisfied with the current state of affairs.

Whose fault is this and how to solve the problem

It should be understood that both partners are to blame for treason. You decide what to do next.

But so that betrayal does not happen, the wife should be aware of the following things:

She can be both a lover and a wife at the same time..
A wife can play several roles simultaneously, and there will be no betrayal.
Wives just don't have the right behavior   mistresses, where she will delight her husband.

All this will help to avoid cheating and have a happy and harmonious family.