Why a man hides a relationship with another. Favorite woman or just a hobby? How to understand a man’s attitude towards you
Some of them are banal to indecent, others suggest suspicious thoughts, and others can destroy your relationship, which he is not ready to take to a new level. It's all about the reasons why a guy hides a relationship and doesn't announce your romance right and left. Let's consider in more detail.
He does not take you seriously
This is the first thing that comes to mind if a guy hides a relationship. Immediately in my head the plan of a noble scandal ripens with a lot of claims in the spirit of "You have not told your mother about me, so you and I have no future." But hold your horses: if you really feel that for him this is a short-term affair, then there may not be a future, only the reasons for his silence regarding the concealment of relations with you can be completely different. Dit doesn't matter to him
A woman feels when she is treated with reverence and love, and if your man clearly does not perceive you as a fleeting pastime, maybe the announcement of your relationship simply does not matter to him. Maybe he’s just such a person, and it’s hard for him to suddenly say in a conversation with a colleague that he has a girlfriend. More precisely, it’s not difficult, but he just does not see the point in this. It is worth letting him know that it bothers you, because it is quite possible that he does not even know about your experiences, thinking that everything is smooth in your couple.
He is afraid that your family or friends will not accept you
This is more typical of young couples, but what if he just does not know how friends and parents will react to you? No, we don’t hint that something is wrong with you, but, for example, they have been kidding with their guys all their lives, and you have a scientific career and a couple of honors. Or the family is very negative about subcultures, and you have pink hair and tattoos all over your body. Why a guy is hiding a relationship is obvious in this case. He loves you, but he’s a little shy and at the same time wants to protect him from the negative that you run the risk of.
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If in your relationship, spending time together is reduced to sex, he obviously does not perceive you as a potential girl, but simply has fun, especially since you do not seem to mind. In such situations, it is not surprising why men hide relationships. Such a person is unlikely to even want to discuss the issue of meeting friends and parents, and even more so he will not try to change the situation.
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If close friends have ever taken the girl away from him, then distrust of the environment is a thing that can be fully understood. But then again, in this situation you will not feel neglected because he loves you and takes you seriously. Why then is the guy hiding the relationship? He just doesn’t want to share you with anyone.
Or maybe he just needs a little more time, and you rush things, tormenting yourself and his question, why do men hide relationships? Let the person understand their intentions and their attitude towards you. By the way, adult men need more time to prioritize, and this is absolutely normal!
At he has a wife. Or girl
The last on the list, but probably the very first option that begs when answering the question why men hide relationships. He's not going to leave her. In general, the status you are aiming for is already taken. Do not spoil the life of others, but your karma and go in search of a new love!
Good afternoon, Catherine! Thank you so much for the quick reply to my letter. It is impossible to invite him to introduce me to his daughter and ex-wife, because he hides from them that he has been living with another woman for a year, his ex-wife thinks that he lives alone. We do not go out together, because we can see common acquaintances and pass it on to his ex-wife. And she, in turn, will forbid him to see the child, that’s the explanation I received on the offer to meet my daughter. This is probably where my distrust comes from, all the time I think that he has not completely decided who he needs. I'd love to know your opinion about this situation. Honestly, I’m very confused about all this, please help me figure it out. Thanks in advance for your reply.
Svetlana, Cheboksary, 40 years old
Answer:
Consulting Psychologist
Hello Svetlana.
You are right that in such a situation you have reasons for distrust. It is only worth understanding that you are creating this situation yourself. You agree to stay at home and hide your relationship. The man’s explanations that his ex-wife will deprive communication with his daughter are insolvent, because it is quite simply decided through the courts. If he does not want to do this, then he really has a reason to avoid quarrels and conflicts with ex-wife. But your situation is up to you. I repeat that if your love is so strong that you are willing to make sacrifices such as conspiratorial relationships, then this is your choice. So, the price of your love is that. If you want respect from a man, then you, first of all, begin to respect yourself. Explain once clearly and clearly that you are not 15 years old to hide from the wrath of another woman. But in this case, it is worthwhile to understand that a man can end a relationship. That is, "without victims" in such situations is not complete, and you, in fact, have a choice between the best of the worst. That is, either you will suffer and believe that someday the situation will change, the man will introduce you to friends and acquaintances, and everything will be wonderful as you want. But the chance of such a change is equal to the chance that everything will remain as before. Or you will suffer from the fact that the relationship will end, and you will be left alone with your unfulfilled plans for this man. There is a third option - the best of all - the man will finally notice that you are worthy of respect and will make his choice in your favor. Therefore, to the question “what to do?”, There is one answer - take responsibility for what is happening to you, make the choice yourself, and do not wait for someone to choose you or, if you delegate this choice to a man, then study live with it and accept it as it is. This is similar to the fact that many do not like rain, but they do not suffer because of it, do not get angry with it, but simply accept it as inevitability, as a given. Good luck!
Sincerely, Ekaterina Kondratieva
Hello Olga! Please help me with advice! I will be very grateful for your reply! My man is 77 years old. He looks 60 with a little, energetic and fit. I am 31 years old. Our relationship is 5.5 years. I love him, and he says he loves me. He had a wife with whom they lived 50 years, a year and a half ago she died. During her life, we met secretly. The last six months we have been living with him in the same apartment. My problem is that I can’t understand: WHY DOES IT HIDE OUR RELATIONSHIP FROM ALL OF ITS RELATIVES? He does not hide only from his eldest granddaughter, who is 23 years old, explaining this with the words: “I don’t know, I feel that way”. (after the death of her grandmother (his wife), she wanted to move to live with him, but he refused her.) His two sons (45 years and 51 years) live in other cities. Last summer, he invited me to relax with him, with his sons and their families at sea). We rested together for 2 weeks. He did not represent me as his woman, but it was such that we spent the night together in the same house ...)
From his words, none of the children told him a bad word about me and I felt comfortable in a friendly atmosphere. And this year he decided to go on vacation together with his eldest son without me, although for the last 4 years we have always spent holidays with him at sea together. He says that he will be uncomfortable in front of the children if another woman is next to him. About last year’s vacation with his family, he said that he then “pierced”, taking me with him. Moreover, he calls me every day from the sea and talks to me with his son. To my question: “Who do you think I am for your son?” - he answers: “I don’t know, we did not discuss this.” Also in outlines about our relationship: he - national artistI am also an artist.
We live together and all the chores are carried out mainly by me. He insists that I work, although he knows that I hate my job, but I can’t find it in my city in my specialty, he receives 4 times more than me: (13 thousand UAH per month, he is greedy, gifts gives only on holidays, I also buy food to the common table without asking for money .. He’s not very generous with emotions: I feel loved only when he has a desire to have sex: (approximately once a week). he is stingy with tenderness and emotions expressing love, explains this by the fact that there should not always be emotional I’m dressed and it’s normal: “I am like that.” In general, I feel that he just needs one who is ready to serve you in any sense for free at any time. He says that he loves me. Please tell me WHY HE HIDES OUR RELATIONSHIPS FROM OUR RELATIVES?
Here he finally appeared, the hero of your novel! Love is wonderful, but do not rush to open his soul to him, for a start, analyze his attitude towards you, so that then you don’t fall painfully from heaven.
So how do you know how seriously he treats you and whether he feels for you strong feelings?
How to understand a man’s attitude towards you
There are five main signs of a frivolous attitude towards you:
1. He calls you much less often than you would like
It happens that he just throws you an SMS, speaks with you on the phone for hours, and then suddenly disappears for a week. Well, where is it here strong feelings? When a person is in love, he is simply attracted to the object of his love, he wants to communicate and see this person. Of course, you can find excuses for him - affairs, work, spun. But do not lose your vigilance and head! Stop looking for excuses and come up with excuses. A sincerely loving man will call you every day.
2. Its ex girls he endows with various epithets, like "crazy" and "bitch", and something else like that
Think, maybe he says the same thing about you? Behind you? It always seems to women that everything that came before her is not serious, but with her, a man will change, and will relate much better than to everyone else. If offends his ex women, then, believe me, there is no guarantee that this will not affect you.
3. He is a fan of online dating and an active user of various social networks
AT lately psychologists are already starting to sound the alarm, as more and more happy couples and families are being destroyed. If even your man and lover surf the Internet, then pay attention to what status is on his page - “have a girlfriend”, “in love”, or maybe “free” and “not married”? Does he have your general photos there? If a man hides your relationship there, then there is reason to beware! If a man is experiencing for you strong feelings and set up for a serious relationship with you, he will not hide you in either the real or the virtual world.
4. He invites you to dates only to his home (if he lives alone) or in general your dates are held only at your home, or, even worse - in rented apartments
Think why? Maybe he doesn’t want to go anywhere with you, because he is afraid of meeting other women he knows? Try to invite him to a cafe or a movie yourself. And in general, do you know his friends and parents?
5. Does he confirm words with deeds
When a man is truly experiencing strong feelings to a woman and is set up for a serious relationship, he begins to take care of her, help her and patronize her. It is through the actions of men that they prove their love, but the "talkers", unfortunately, remain talkers. For example, you get sick, you have a fever, and your beloved at that time only does what he tells you about his feelings and how he cannot live without you.
Do you need this at such a moment? Loving man will buy you fruits, vitamins, put socks on the legs, put him to bed or bring a good doctor. Or, for example, you have all the taps in the house running, the iron, the kettle and the refrigerator are broken. Do you need love songs? No, you need real male help. Remember, when a man is serious about you, he will not spare either his time or his money for you.
