Passion between girls. Relationship between women: from friendship to love
Relationships between women: what are they? Friend, girlfriend, rival - what can bind two women? It may be a feeling of love or hate ... One interesting detail in such relationships has long been noticed; of two friends, one certainly has a brighter appearance and stands out favorably against the background of another less attractive one. In the wake of the general interest in all sorts of signs of fate, astrologers and psychics vied with each other asserting karmic relationships. This is when there are no common interests, different social status, and pulls each other irresistibly.
Women Friendship
The first naive secrets are divided among themselves girls in early childhood. Joint games with dolls, sitting in the sandbox, then at school at the same desk. As they grow older, trusting relationships do not go away, but are reinforced by discussing cosmetics and clothes.
“Let me not have blood sisters, I consider you my sister” is what expresses the essence of friendship of girls from childhood. Bastard girlfriends have a few points that unite them:
- envy in a relationship; this quality is peculiar to man in general, but in the friendship of girls, women, manifests itself brighter. Such friends should be kept at a distance, because at any moment you can expect from them a stab in the back, a betrayal;
- gossip girl is no less dangerous than the envious; having shared the most intimate with such a girlfriend, you can find with annoyance that your secret has become publicly available and is relished by others.
In the modern world, the view is firmly rooted that there is no female friendship at all. But life itself constantly casts doubt on such an assertion by numerous examples of sincere, lasting and long-standing friendly female relations. One interesting observation is that there are very few cases of friendships in female groups, in a working environment. Common interests and conversations are limited to the office and professional activities.
Mother's daughters
Often this is a very difficult relationship, the most close and dear people sometimes speak in different languages or in general from opposing worlds. In the union, mother - daughter, psychologists distinguish several models of relationships:
- girlfriends; the mother sees in the daughter, first and foremost, an independent personality, respects her personality, as an elder friend, unobtrusively seeks to help in the event of any problems; the daughter in this case finds in the mother an object worthy of imitation and wants to be like her;
- rivals; there is a woman in the age and a number of blooming youth, the first, realizing withering, directs her irritation against her daughter. The primacy can belong equally to both mother and daughter. The tension of such a relationship is destructive and does not bode well until the eldest of women shows wisdom and proves by deed that she is not an enemy to her child.
- cold war; here egoism of the daughter collides, which does not accept even the very possibility of the existence of a mother’s personal life and the sacrifice of the mother, who devotes herself only to her family. As a rule, this situation is characteristic of single-parent families.
Mother-in-law
One of the most double-edged situations ... Both consider themselves to be the main thing in the life of the same person, only for one is the husband, and for the other - the son. The situation is almost completely hopeless when the man was the only beloved and beloved child in the family. Here the best option is to live separately, and the positive aspect of such a union will be that if you feel all the delights of the position of the sister-in-law, you will most likely be a wonderful mother-in-law in the future.
Love between women
The psychological roots of making such a relationship are very confusing, opinions are contradictory. Maybe once disillusioned with her chosen one man, a woman unwittingly stretches in her search for a life partner to a more gentle and understanding being. Education, psychology, sexuality, all this is connected when you want to answer the question about same-sex love among women. One of the women shows concern for her weaker partner, the other sees in her darling courage, courage, determination — all that she did not find in a man.
To call such an inclination a deviation, an abnormality, a disease that needs to be treated is wrong. In modern society, it is considered that if there is no violation of public morality or danger to others, then love relationships have the right to freedom of choice.
Women can remain in good friendship, not being ashamed of the intimacy between them in the past, if it was. Experts explain this behavior by female curiosity and sexuality, because you fall in love with a person, not with his gender.
It is important to note that there are women who physiologically cannot love anyone else but their own kind, as Mother Nature ordered. We are talking about true lesbians, their position deserves more sympathy than condemnation.
The woman is the personification of peace, tenderness and love. Woman is impossible not to love. Everything is beautiful in it - both capricious temper, and infinite tenderness, and genuine sensuality. Men admire us, a woman needs a man like air. And what if a woman admires a woman? How to be if love occurs between two women? Such a manifestation of feelings causes very different reactions in society. Here, as they say, do not judge others ...
What are these girls made of ...Soul requires a man. Real, strong, decisive and caring. So what that men do not have enough. It does not matter that disassembled, wait. In theory, this perspective does not frighten at all. But when it comes to practice, the situation changes radically. Frequent disappointment in relationships with a man, failures in the choice of a gentleman, the lack of a number of reliable men - all of these situations do not stop a woman in her search. Just the "parameters" of this search have to be adjusted. And in life it happens that a woman becomes the object of love of another woman.
Why women love each other - the answer to this question lies in the behavior and sensations. If you look at same-sex couples, you can trace a certain trend: in a pair of F + F, as a rule, one partner has “male” sexuality, while the other is truly feminine and fragile. It turns out that a woman who has seen masculinity, determination, courage, which she did not find in a man in another woman, begins to harbor feelings and hope for her to find happiness next to her. On the other hand, the love of two women arises from the desire of one of them to take care of a weak partner. Feeling in herself a certain “male” core, a woman falls in love with either a effeminate man or a woman. Anyway, the answer to the question of why women love women is closely related to their upbringing, psychology and sexuality. It is wrong to call attraction to representatives of one’s gender. Maybe it's just 
"Temporary clouding of reason".
Very often, women can have intimate relationships, intimacy, and further maintain friendly relations, without being ashamed of what was between them. This is again due to female sexuality and curiosity. A woman is looking for pleasure with the same gentle and passionate partner, because she is a “woman”. The manifestation of weaknesses is not alien to women and society is not forbidden. Therefore, psychologically for a woman there are not many barriers to decide on same-sex relationships.
The person to whom the following statement belongs, correctly noted: “we fall in love with a person, and not with his gender”.
The problem of sexual orientation is quite acute in modern society. Same-sex love in all forms, both the relationship between a man and a man, and most people associate with something unnatural, negative and unacceptable. Previously it was believed that the manifestation of feelings and passion between two representatives of the fair sex is a direct referral to a clinic for the mentally ill. Is it scary? Why do some ladies prefer their sex? What triggers the development of such relationships and what does love between women lead to? Modern psychology provides answers to these questions.
Behavioral features of women
According to numerous studies, females are more sensitive and emotional than males. Nature itself has endowed women with the ability to love and to have strong feelings towards men, to create a family and have children. However, under the influence of numerous vital factors, the psyche and the innate behavioral characteristics of the beautiful half of humanity undergo major changes. Modern life sometimes forces women to take on part of men's duties, perform heavy physical work and play roles that are not peculiar to them in society. All this provokes changes in the character and personal qualities of the representatives of the weaker sex.
The reasons
Same-sex relationships among beautiful women can develop on their own, regardless of age and previous sexual orientation of a person. There are cases when, before meeting with a new partner, the girl had a fairly strong love affair with a man, but afterwards she preferred love between women.
In addition to the most inexplicable occurrence of passion for a person of the same sex, the construction of such relationships can provoke social factors, education, environment, LGBT propaganda, as well as negative experience with a member of the opposite sex. 
Attempts to discover something new
Most people on various experiments in the sexual life pushes curiosity. For example, some use escort services (phone sex, ordering "priestesses of love") or resort to communicating with representatives of another race. So what is the difference between relationships between women, the love that arises between them? All this is the same experiment, a peculiar way to diversify personal life, on which uncomplexed, free-thinking individuals are decided, while fully aware of their actions and deeds. Some of the fair sex is trying to feel in this way what a man is experiencing, touching a woman, courting and enjoying intimacy with her.
Propaganda
The fact that recently broadcast on TV, as well as in various Internet communities, is nothing but indirect propaganda of lesbian relations. Celebrities of show business openly demonstrate their sexual orientation, showing how it is fashionable and modern, and in some countries there are rallies of LGBT activists. 
The hardened minds of adult accomplished personalities of such a provocation have no effect. Mostly under the influence of propaganda fall young girls, adolescents with a fragile psyche. Then the woman's love for another woman develops under the influence of external suggestion, in which the game to the public predominates. Freshmen and high school students are often not aware of their actions, this kind of relationship ends in a more mature age - up to 20 years.
Alcohol
The desire of a man
Passion, female love for a woman can be caused by the desire of a husband / male permanent sexual partner to try a threesome sex. It has been proven that some men are especially excited by lesbian games, and many of them would like to make such fantasies a reality. It is worth noting that women easily agree to such experiments, not opposing such strange dreams. They are motivated mainly by the fear of losing their beloved, jealousy, curiosity and the desire to satisfy their partner. However, such a one-time relationship can develop into a new relationship, where a man becomes the third superfluous.
Dissatisfaction
Lack of sex life, as well as dissatisfaction with it, can provoke same-sex love: 2 women will unite the desire to get as much positive emotions from intercourse as possible. Recently, many different articles have appeared, which say that ladies know better what they need, because a woman’s love for a woman can only bring positive and positive energy. Of course, reading this kind of information, a girl dissatisfied with heterosexual relationships and disappointed in love will risk trying the forbidden fruit. Often it ends with a long alliance or unsuccessful experience.
Dissatisfaction can be triggered by male egoism, the desire to deliver more pleasure to yourself than to a partner. Therefore, the female subconscious erects a kind of wall in front of relationships with the representatives of the stronger sex, which causes the person to radically change his sexual orientation.
Fear of pregnancy
Despite their main natural destiny - to bear and bear offspring, - some of the weaker sex have a fear of pregnancy and the very fact of conceiving a child. It pushes them to unnatural relationships - the love of a woman for a woman. The very realization that it’s impossible to get pregnant from a person of the same sex as you allows them to relax and enjoy sex.
About love between women: psychological trauma
This factor implies both emotional and physical violence, as well as misunderstanding by the human environment, child and adolescent cruelty. The family is the main social factor influencing the development of the individual. Negative attitude to a girl in childhood, assault by the father, his betrayal or sexual abuse - all this in the future affects the preferences of an adult in terms of sexual orientation.
The love of a woman for a woman can develop not only thanks to the "ghosts" from childhood and the psychological trauma received during this period. The first negative sexual experience with a man, ridicule and bullying by peers of the opposite sex leave an unfilled gap in the woman’s psyche. For her, communication with a man becomes painful, and intimate intimacy is something unnatural and unpleasant. In this connection, the woman begins to seek solace in a relationship with a representative of the same sex.
Psychologists believe that the love of two women, based on psychological traumas and fears received at any stage of human development, does not bring positive emotions, they are a psychological problem that requires correction, and in some cases, treatment.
Woman with a girl: love and sex. Male attitudes
Most of the representatives of the strong half of humanity are positively related to the love and intimacy of two women. This is due to erotic fantasies, where girls participate in sexual games, and the man is a direct observer, and sometimes a participant in intercourse.
Some believe that individuals with similar sexual preferences are great friends, companions for men. However, in reality, things can be different: besides non-traditional orientation, women can be ardent fans of feminism and, as a result, haters of males. 
Love of beautiful women to each other can be perceived negatively. Among men who do not accept any manifestation of homosexuality, including female, it is generally accepted that a person should follow his original purpose - to create a family and keep the race, and any discrepancy between natural attitudes and instincts is a manifestation of mental deviations. Similar opinions are found in heterosexual women, but the weaker sex is more inclined to sympathize and pity people with a different sexual orientation.
Religion
Almost all official world religions consider homosexuality a sin. Despite the loyalty of modern society in Western countries towards LGBT people, most of the Christian and Catholic churches, as well as Islam, do not accept individuals who openly declare their sexual preferences in favor of people of the same sex. Religious principles say that such phenomena are a fall, since God originally conceived marriage, the union of the loving hearts of man and woman, which gives rise to a new life.
Recently, however, in some Catholic churches and communities there has been a tendency to accept homosexuality as such and to openly support sex minorities. 
What is the relationship in a pair of two women
There is an opinion that in the same-sex family life both partners behave like ordinary housewives: they cook, clean, wash, spend joint evenings watching melodramas and romantic films, while empathizing with the heroes of the films.
Far from it. In each of the homosexual couples, relationships are lined up on the same principle as in heterosexual couples. One of the women takes a stronger, masculine position, and the other, respectively, female. For example, a partner with a strong desire to protect, protect and ensure the family will work and play the role of a husband. The second will carry out the basic female duties: to prepare food, to keep the house clean.
Opinion psychologists
It is believed that if a person is comfortable in a relationship with a person of the same sex as him, then this does not require any treatment or attention of specialists. However, if a person is experiencing a certain discomfort, does not constantly say publicly about his involvement in this or that sexual minority, and also openly demonstrates his relationship in the presence of minors - these are signs of mental disorder.
It is worth noting that female homosexuality itself in modern psychology and psychiatry is not considered a disease. In most cases, a woman’s attraction to a woman is conditioned by a defensive reaction to painful relationships with men, dissatisfaction with sex life, and violence. But it also happens that a woman just meets a man of the same sex, falls in love with him for inexplicable and incomprehensible reasons and creates a pair with him.
Psychology of the relationship between a girl and a girl tells that talk about non-traditional couples cause in society, most often, only unhealthy interest. If a girl fell in love with a girl, she would not want to publicize her affection. And if you show “healthy” attention not to homosexuality in general, but to the relations between the two girls, you can see that sometimes they have a long, well-established character, which not all ordinary heterosexual unions can boast about.
Love to yourself is in any case a serious test. How is it to care for a man of his own sex, to live with him, to establish life, to make plans, for a family? In Russia, there is a law prohibiting the promotion of homosexuality to minors. He will not be able to prevent a teenager, a girl from falling in love with the same as she, or with an adult woman, but the suffering will only intensify, because it becomes necessary to hide the truth from parents and friends.
If you do not delve into the medical component of this issue, you can note several main reasons for the interest of girls to women. First, curiosity. Teenage girls learn to kiss their peers, since there is no “experimental material” of the opposite sex, they are interested in some sensual moments, some try to get rid of bashfulness.
Secondly, the family. The psychology of the relationship between the girl and the girl tells us that if the girl was raised as a son, or the family relationship provided a vivid example of the fact that men are cruel, unreliable, etc., the girl will pay more attention to women. The loneliness of the girl, lack of attention from parents can lead to the same consequences.
Thirdly, unsuccessful sexual contact, violence, dissatisfaction, the problem of gender identity push the girl to search for a loved one of the same sex.
Parents since childhood, ask the installation: "You can only love boys." In the future, the girl is suffering from the realization that she does not correspond to the parent plan “to get married and have a child”, and if the environment learns about her burden to women, she will look abnormal. Her love for her family and friends does not depend on her orientation, but often it is her parents who push her daughter away because they cannot accept her choice. Do not blame the girl that she does not meet anyone's expectations, everyone has the right to be happy, right?
Often a girl only in homosexual relationships can find inner harmony. In the event that the partner is older, there is an exchange of life experience, moreover, it is easier to find a common language with a successful person, tolerance for personal shortcomings appears. In an adult person, he is attracted by calmness, prudence, a firm position in life. It is not necessarily a physical attraction, sometimes enough platonic feelings, love, mutual interest, respect.
Girls have in many ways similar thinking, compared with the male logic, it is easier for them to understand and accept each other. Common interests and leisure, taste preferences, the rhythm of life bring women together, make their life together unique, serve as natural steps in mutual care.
It should be noted that all these pleasures of life can (and even should!) Manifest themselves in heterosexual relationships. The problem is not whether the beloved has a Y-chromosome - a good pair will only form if a person is interested in something else.
If girls can live in peace with their choices, it remains only to rejoice for them. But in the event that their situation impedes development, causes depression, it is worthwhile to turn to a psychologist. Not to force him to accept widespread heterosexuality, on the contrary, a specialist will help to believe in himself, will support, in the end, it will be easier for a girl to accept reality and build relationships.
