What are the signs of a girl in love. How to understand if I fell in love
How to understand if I fell in love?
Since ancient times, mankind has known that the feeling of love can strike suddenly and at the most inopportune moment. But so far no one can give a more or less intelligible explanation of what love and feelings of love represent. Any person at least once in his life experienced this mysterious and at the same time strong feeling, which he is unable to explain properly even to himself. In this regard, the question "how to understand whether I fell in love" stirs the mind of more than one girl.
Nevertheless, to feel the arrival of love and even determine its presence is quite possible. Pay attention to the fact that it always occurs suddenly and, most often, between partners who are very similar to each other. Very often, the boy and the girl are the same with respect to the variety of hobbies, the level of development of the intellect, the social environment and position, cultural preferences. This is due to the fact that, when meeting a potential partner, it is common for a person to evaluate him primarily by these criteria. It should be emphasized that love can pass as suddenly as it appears.
Are there any signs of falling in love? First of all - it is anxiety. The voice of the elect, his presence or even a fleeting glimpse causes a sharp surge of positive and confusing emotions. A doorbell or a telephone trill immediately evoke the thought that maybe this is it! When all thoughts and all expectations are constantly connected with him - this is love. Scientists have repeatedly stressed the fact that falling in love is a completely natural result of the production of a number of hormones, in particular dopamine, which, in turn, lead to an inexplicable surge of happiness and excitement from the point of view of the person himself.
However, it produces a well-known adrenaline. Its release into the blood increases when the “one” appears next, so we observe a slight tremor, a sudden increase in the rate of palpitations, a desire to do something. The girls in love become unusually talkative, they easily make contact, they put all the interests of the beloved above their own. It is believed that to resist this feeling is almost impossible, since in most cases it completely interrupts the “voice of reason”, which can sometimes be very dangerous and detrimental for a girl who literally does not see and does not want to see the negative sides of her chosen one.
Signs of love in girls
It should be noted that the signs of love in girls are often expressed in obsession and a desire to pursue their chosen one, which can greatly reduce the chances of creating a real strong relationship with this guy. It is already well known that most guys prefer not just available girls who behave much more restrained and calmer. At the same time, a girl in love tries to devote as much time as possible to her object of adoration, even if there is still nothing in common between them.
Femina in love strives to learn as much as possible about the “only one” in all available ways: she communicates with those who are indirectly familiar with him, constantly viewing his pages on social networks. The first and main question, which pursues a girl in love, does the chosen one have a young companion? If so, what is it, what attracts him? At the same time, the possibility of destroying a couple and “leading away” the desired man is being seriously considered.
At the same time with increased attention to the guy, the girl becomes picky about herself, because she constantly worries about the impression she makes on him when she meets. In the first place under the attack of self-criticism falls, of course, appearance! If you think: “How to understand if I fell in love with him?”, Then pay attention to the behavior. A girl in love to take care of not only the new image, which would have made an impression on the object of desire, but also about its status among others.
Why is that? The banal desire to impress not only by appearance but also by character plays its role. You become suddenly friendly and responsive with all your friends, even if you used to be completely different. Being in love has its positive sides, as it forces one to perform such things for which one did not have enough of one’s own self-control: to go on a strict diet, to go in for sports, to raise one’s intellectual level and to go in for education.
The most striking signs of excessive love and sympathy for a particular guy. Of course. There are those feelings that you experience when it appears. For girls. At the sight of their chosen one, heart palpitations, goosebumps, trembling, weakness in the legs, feeling of heat or cold are characteristic. Often also characterized by sudden weight loss, which occurs even without the introduction of a diet, because the girl may suffer loss of appetite and even insomnia. There is no sign of depression. Rather, on the contrary, there is a sudden activity, the desire to do something, unreasonable bouts of happiness and fun. The main and decisive sign of love is a complete loss of concentration and common sense, making the girl become too intrusive and easily accessible to the object of adoration.
How to determine the love of a guy?
The question of how to determine a man’s love is no less important, as many girls mistakenly perceive a flirt or even simple politeness, friendliness, as a sign of increased attention and affection.
In terms of love, the guys are quite simple: they react to the girl "here and now": during a meeting with her, they forget about friends and relatives, time, constantly reflects on a new future meeting.
Intrusiveness is also peculiar to guys. The young man constantly thinks about his beloved, observes the presence of her image in all his thoughts, plans for the future. He tries to devote all his free time to her. However, the characteristic is a change in musical preferences. Young people who previously listened to extremely heavy music suddenly add love songs and romantic songs to their playlists. He also strives to keep track of any activity of a girl on social networks, looks at her records, listens to music, which she placed on her page. In this way, the guys are trying to get as close as possible to their beloved, to understand her mood, experiences, state of mind.
At the same time, the affection and idealization of the girl is peculiar to the love of guys. They believe that it is the best, they are constantly mentally close to it, they themselves change for the better, trying to make an impression, make various joint plans for the future. Also do not forget about physical attraction! Young people more than the girls themselves want close and close contact, hugs and kisses, even simple joint walks holding hands.
Looking at all these signs, many psychologists note that the feeling of being in love is in many ways similar to a nervous breakdown, because it is accompanied by constant anxiety, feelings along with the feeling of happiness. Attachment is so sharp and strong that the thought of a possible separation causes excessive feelings. For guys, this condition is often accompanied by paranoid ideas about the possibility of adultery on the part of the girl. If you notice the behavior of a man in love, try to analyze this situation and keep your sanity, so that too much hormone surge does not prompt you to rash actions that you may regret later.
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Symptoms of falling in love are characterized by symptoms of other mental illnesses. Love is a sudden addiction. You suddenly become a drug addict. Where your drug is, is another person.
Is love a disease?
The international classification of diseases from 2010 (ICD-10) believes that yes!
The term they gave to love is “a disorder of habits and desires unspecified”. This refers to the category of mental deviations under the code F63.9. Below, I will analyze this point of view in more detail.
Love is bad?
I know many people will not like this article, many will say “Nikolay, this is all complete nonsense, love is a very good thing! Love brings us closer to others, creates families, opens our hearts! ”.
I totally agree with you! When I remember my past lovers, in many cases I start to smile and very pleasant sensations come.
But this is only one side of the coin, so to speak, you need to look at the other side too. The other side is not so bright and kind. It is very painful and destructive.
Once again, I'm not saying that falling in love is bad. Good or bad, subjective concepts, they are completely dependent on the goal. What is good for one purpose will be destructive for another.
In one situation, love will create a magnificent family and many children in the future. In another situation, falling in love will completely destroy such a family. It all depends on the situation and what the person does in it.
We need to understand what love is, to know what is the use and danger of this state. It will be much smarter than just thinking that falling in love is good.
When we have an understanding of what happens to us during love, if we suddenly fall in love, we can already decide whether we want to go further for this love or not.
Sometimes it will be worth it and go to create relationships, and sometimes, on the contrary, break yourself a little and will not succumb, so as not to destroy something very valuable that already exists.
Why love is considered a disease?
Because your peace of mind is disturbed, a very strong dependence appears and the mind is repressed.
Sharp and strong fluctuations of the hormones of “happiness” create this dependence.
With love, you suddenly go out of your hormonal balance and can not do anything about it. Your hormones begin to fluctuate strongly and this creates strong mood swings. Today you communicate with your love object and “float in the clouds”, tomorrow it is not near you and you feel awful. You lose control of your psychological state.
Now let's think about alcoholism or drug addiction. What happens there? Same. At one moment, complete euphoria, at another, depression and apathy. A person does things that he later regrets. A person loses control of himself.
What often happens with love?
Often husbands cheat on their wives, destroy their families. Often wives do the same. Lovers of men spend the last money on their lovers, take loans, which then can not close. The women in love blindly follow the men and their empty promises, completely ignoring the opposing actions of the man.
I'm not saying that love is always bad. I would not be in my relationship now if there were no love at the initial stage of the relationship.
What I want to say in this article, the meaning of the article is what happens when you fall in love. Understanding what love is you will make fewer mistakes in life. Mistakes that can sometimes cost your relationship or even a whole family.
Does love make us animals?
Man is a creature that must act according to reason, because reason distinguishes us from animals.
It has already been proven that animals also feel emotions, and some animals feel very complex emotions.
Experiments with cloven-hoofed animals (for example, cows) proved that cows feel many emotions, both pleasant and unpleasant emotions. Emotions in relation to other living beings, and especially other cows.
It has already been proven that when one of the cows is led to the slaughterhouse, the other cows really begin to cry. If you measure the level of stress in other cows, then he wildly rolls over at such moments. But the cows do not move, because they are afraid that they too will be led to the slaughterhouse.
And so, you say, and here cows, damn it, Nikolai !?
Cows despite the fact that many believe that what separates man from animals is a feeling of emotions, such as feelings of love and suffering. But already scientifically proven that it is not. What separates man from animals is the mind.
If we look at ancient texts on Oriental yoga or even Western philosophy (for example, Platonism), then reason, or as it is also called “intellect” in Platonism, is considered to be what makes a person “man” and not an animal.
Reason is the ability to think logically and connect different knowledge together.
With love, our mind flies out of the picture.
Due to this, we really become more like animals.
Is a lover a drug addict?
Why does the mind fly out with love?
Because it pereklinivaet, jumping hormones.
Our hormones completely influence what we think and feel. In fact, love is a sudden strong fluctuation of hormones. Specifically hormones: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and others, which I explained in detail in other articles about love and relationships.
Think of a drug addict. When a drug addict injects himself with a dose of heroin, his dopamine level sharply soars (the hormone of “happiness”).
Now think about what happens to you when the person you fell in love gives you attention. For example, talking to you, or hugging you, or kissing you, or anything else.
Your level of “happiness” soars up sharply! Right? How do you think your body creates this feeling of “happiness”? What does this feeling create in your body? This is nothing like the very same dopamine that takes off from a drug addict.
What happens next with the addict. His dose is over, he came to himself, what happens next? Then he begins to grow by the feeling that “something is wrong”, that “something is missing. This feeling grows and grows. With his growth increases anxiety, excitement, suffering. If the addict does not take the dose again, the withdrawal syndrome will soon begin. This is what ordinary people call breaking.
Now back to the lover. What happens to a lover, if his object of fixation (with whom he fell in love) stops paying attention to him, does not call, does not write, does not want to meet. What happens to a lover?
He gets very bad, just awful. What's going on here? The levels of hormones that the other person raised you suddenly fall, as this person is no longer with you, and the real “breaking” begins. It's very simple, no magic or fiction, no karma or mysticism, just pure biochemistry.
According to ICD-10, falling in love has the following symptoms:
- Impulsiveness;
- Rash acts;
- Restless sleep;
- Insomnia;
- Inflated self-opinion;
- Increased self-pity;
- Obsessive thoughts;
- Allergic reactions;
- Headaches;
- Sharp changes in mood;
- Sharp fluctuations in blood pressure.
You can also add the following symptoms:
- Difficulty concentrating;
- Restlessness;
- Sudden splashes of fear, anger or joy;
- Increased agitation;
- Loss of body awareness (which leads to loss of appetite);
- Strong fluctuations in values and life priorities.
All these symptoms translate into physical and psychological states and sensations.
From what feelings you remember most and how you treat them, your attitude towards love in general will depend.
Some people think that falling in love is something very intimate and good. Some think the opposite and try to “protect” themselves from falling in love.
Many belong to the second group of people without even realizing it. Such people usually do not have a serious relationship for a long time, since they do not fully reveal themselves to another person or choose partners with whom it is difficult to have a serious relationship.
They think that they are simply “not lucky”, that the “right” person has simply not met on their way, etc. But, in fact, they usually simply do not realize how they themselves make choices and what they specifically do to create their situation.
How does this strange disease manifest itself?
What do men and women do when they get sick with this strange disease? How does their behavior change? What is dangerous about it? Let's take a closer look.
Signs of love in women.
For women, the state of love is much closer than for men, as they are more emotional creatures. Emotionally, women are much more developed than men.
If you compare the amygdala, the part of the brain that is responsible for emotions, then for women it is much larger than for men.
This means women can feel and recognize more different kinds and subtleties of emotions than men. When they say that a woman loves more than a man, then it really is. We can say that a woman is created by nature in order to love.
Therefore, when a woman does not have a man whom she could love very much, be it her man (or sometimes another woman), or her child, then it becomes very difficult for her. It does not seem to fulfill its natural function. Often, such women live in “hidden depression” or “repressed aggression,” without even realizing it.
So when a woman falls in love, she blossoms as the most magical and beautiful flower.
Her behavior can, changes as follows:
- Attentiveness
She becomes more attentive to her desired person. For example, it will be more attentive to listen to him when he is talking, to notice different things that you would not usually notice. A man will like it a lot.
- Neatness. She begins to look after herself much stronger.
- Modesty. Often women become more modest than they usually are.
- Shyness.
- Kindness. A woman becomes kinder to her lover.
- Care. A woman can start caring and caring for her lover. Cooking for him, ironing things, etc.
- Absent-mindedness In a fit of emotions, very often women become absent-minded.
- Femininity.
- Sexuality. A woman becomes more sexy and attractive to men. Femininity and sexuality are the totality of her behavior and the changes that occur to her during being in love.
Of course, every woman will be in love in different ways, these are just some examples.
Past experience.
Will greatly influence the past experience of women. If her past relationship ended badly and the pain is still inside her (typical situation), then there will be strong distortions in her behavior and perception of the situation and the person she fell in love with.
In such situations, women often fall in love not with the man who is in front of them, but with their “former”, without even realizing it.
What's bad about it?
What they would expect from a new man was what they wanted but did not receive from their ex. If he cannot give it to them, then at the second stage of the relationship, when the love ends, the woman will begin to feel that the man is “completely alien” to her and not understand at all what happens to her.
This does not mean that you need to break off the relationship, it just means that you will have to meet your man again. And maybe again, in love with him. This is such a strange thing human psychology.
Signs of love in men.
Signs of love in men are very similar to women's, but manifest themselves in a slightly different way, since the dominant function in men is not feelings but logic.
- Help.
A man usually tries in different ways to help a woman in love. For example, he will come to her house and see that something is broken at home, then maybe he will try to fix it.
Or if a woman has financial difficulties, a man will be very happy to help her. For a man, the manifestation of help is the sensation of his own power. This is very important for male psychology. If you want to like a man, give him a chance to help you. Unfortunately, women often scam artists use this factor.
- Interest.
You become interesting to the man. So do not be surprised if he starts asking a bunch of questions about you, your work, your present and past.
Just really, you suddenly became very interesting to him.
- Physical proximity.
A man will want to be physically close with you. It is not only sex, it is any intimacy, such as touching, hugging, kissing, etc. When he is with you, he increases the hormone oxytocin, he feels like a warm pleasant feeling.
The hormone level rises and he wants more and more time to be around you. But, dear women, remember that the level of oxytocin in men is very strong and drops sharply after orgasm. Then it takes several weeks for the hormone to return to its previous level. Therefore, unfortunately, it often happens that a man is in love “before the first sex”.
After sex, after orgasm, the level of oxytocin in him drops sharply and automatically his interest in you too. This is not always the case, but very often.
- The trust.
As I said, the level of oxytocin in men increases greatly with love, and oxytocin, as we know, not only the hormone of love, but also confidence. A man strongly believes in love. You can literally cook a large pot of noodles, put him at the table, and slowly begin to hang it noodles on his ears.
He will just smile and clap his eyes. But now seriously, this level of trust will fall when falling in love, so do not be surprised if he suddenly becomes jealous.
Danger - fall in love with a lover.
As it became clear when a person falls in love, his behavior changes greatly for the better. He becomes more caring, pleasant, neat, gentle, kind, cheerful, etc.
How not to fall in love with such a lover?
Very hard.
Often this is exactly what happens. One falls in love, begins to care, and the second does not stand up and also falls in love.
What is the problem?
The problem appears when love passes. As I explained in my other articles, falling in love is just the first of several stages of a relationship. For some, it passes in a couple of weeks, for some in a couple of months. But at all it passes.
And then what?
Then it all depends on how impulsively you behaved at the stage of love.
I remember one friend who married the love stage, literally after a couple of months of relationships. Passed the stage of love, and she realized that the man for whom she is married is not at all interesting to her and even unpleasant now.
And what to do now? After all, they got married? Many remain in the relationship and suffer, trying to fix a marriage in their marriage.
Or about pregnancy. Same. A pregnancy occurs at the love stage, and now everything, soon there will be a small family, cannot be destroyed. Or can it? Many stay together and suffer, torture children, children absorb it all, grow up and of course do the same.
Depressiac, Nikolay!
No, it's just life. We all make mistakes.
A mistake in these situations is a misunderstanding of the fact that falling in love is a temporary condition. During which your perception of another person is distorted.
The same behavior of another person, if he is in love with you, is also distorted. You are literally different people when in love with each other.
Once again, I repeat, the one you are in love with is not the one who he really is. And the one who is in love with you is also not who he really is.
How much you don’t understand this, or don’t want to understand, it will hurt so much when the love goes away. When you realize that you have entered into a relationship with a person who is not at all interesting and disagreeable to you.
Damn, what to do?
Everything is very simple. Life is always very simple. It is our mind that makes things complicated. I read it in some clever book.
After reading this article, you already have an idea about what love is and how it distorts our perception of ourselves, others and life in general.
As I understand, love can not be avoided. It will be happening to you. This will happen when you have no relationship, and maybe even when you are already in a relationship.
Yes, when you are already in a relationship, it happens less often than when you have no relationship. It all depends on your own boundaries for other people. If these boundaries are hard and only your loved one is in them, then you will have much less love for other people.
If you open these boundaries and start to let other people into them that you like or are interested in, then suddenly falling in love can cover you. Then it will be important to realize what is happening to you and not act impulsively, otherwise you will destroy what you have been building for many years.
I had exactly this situation recently. I have been in a serious relationship for 4 years now, and recently started editing photos of one girl. It is easy to edit to develop the skill of the photographer, as I work a lot with photos and videos.
And after a few days of such editing, love began to cover me. About 2 weeks I came to my senses. When I came to my senses, I apologized to the girl and said that I would not edit her photo anymore, since I started falling in love with her. I didn’t have anything with this girl, I didn’t spend even one minute on her in my life, I just managed to fall in love a little through the photo.
If I explain this from the point of view of my body, then I just started going through hormones when I looked at her photos, that's all. Why did they start behaving like this? I do not know, a lot of factors affect the fluctuations of hormones.
What would happen if I went for this love? I would ruin my relationship and try to get in a relationship with this girl. But this girl does not attract me at all as a person, my love for her was purely physical. I fell in love with her body, that's all. After a couple of weeks of contact with this girl, or even less, would have passed love and I would understand what a serious mistake I made.
So when I noticed falling in love with myself, I started chopping her off right away. Ideally, I should have noticed her much earlier.
This is what concerns the existing relationship.
If you have no relationship, then the situation is slightly different. If you feel that you are falling in love with someone, then you need to seriously think about the qualities of that person. If a person is good - honest, kind, decent, polite, caring, etc., then when love passes, you will be pleased with it. It will be much easier for you to go through the following stages of relationships that go after falling in love.
If a person is not good, then do not expect anything good at the end of love. When his love ends in you, and who he really is, you may be very sick.
Therefore, it is sometimes worth thinking about - “Who am I in love with this time?”. And if you understand that the person is “bad”, then just break yourself, go through the “break-up” and that's it. Yes, it will hurt, it may hurt a lot, a few days or even weeks, maybe a whole month or two, but it will be worth it.
But, like a real addict who is trying to overcome addiction, you will have to severely limit contact with the person you are in love with. Otherwise, your hormones will jump when communicating with him, support your love, your addiction.
Video about the experiment on a dangerous bridge.
Do you understand how everything works now? Love is a physical addiction that comes from a sharp explosion of hormones.
A lot of factors affect our hormones.
Below, in the video, I talk about a psychological experiment where men fell in love because of the anxiety that they experienced on a dangerous bridge, and not because they liked the woman they were with.
1246Since ancient times, mankind has known that the feeling of love can strike suddenly and at the most inopportune moment. But so far no one can give a more or less intelligible explanation of what love and feelings of love represent. Any person at least once in his life experienced this mysterious and at the same time strong feeling, which he is unable to explain properly even to himself. In this regard, the question "how to understand whether I fell in love" stirs the mind of more than one girl.
Nevertheless, to feel the arrival of love and even determine its presence is quite possible. Pay attention to the fact that it always occurs suddenly and, most often, between partners who are very similar to each other. Very often, the boy and the girl are the same with respect to the variety of hobbies, the level of development of the intellect, the social environment and position, cultural preferences. This is due to the fact that, when meeting a potential partner, it is common for a person to evaluate him primarily by these criteria. It should be emphasized that love can pass as suddenly as it appears.
Are there any signs of falling in love? First of all - it is anxiety. The voice of the elect, his presence or even a fleeting glimpse causes a sharp surge of positive and confusing emotions. A doorbell or a telephone trill immediately evoke the thought that maybe this is it! When all thoughts and all expectations are constantly connected with him - this is love. Scientists have repeatedly stressed the fact that falling in love is a completely natural result of the production of a number of hormones, in particular dopamine, which, in turn, lead to an inexplicable surge of happiness and excitement from the point of view of the person himself.
However, it produces a well-known adrenaline. Its release into the blood increases when the “one” appears next, so we observe a slight tremor, a sudden increase in the rate of palpitations, a desire to do something. The girls in love become unusually talkative, they easily make contact, they put all the interests of the beloved above their own. It is believed that to resist this feeling is almost impossible, since in most cases it completely interrupts the “voice of reason”, which can sometimes be very dangerous and detrimental for a girl who literally does not see and does not want to see the negative sides of her chosen one.
Signs of love in girls
It should be noted that the signs of love in girls are often expressed in obsession and a desire to pursue their chosen one, which can greatly reduce the chances of creating a real strong relationship with this guy. It is already well known that most guys prefer not just available girls who behave much more restrained and calmer. At the same time, a girl in love tries to devote as much time as possible to her object of adoration, even if there is still nothing in common between them.
Femina in love strives to learn as much as possible about the “only one” in all available ways: she communicates with those who are indirectly familiar with him, constantly viewing his pages on social networks. The first and main question, which pursues a girl in love, does the chosen one have a young companion? If so, what is it, what attracts him? At the same time, the possibility of destroying a couple and “leading away” the desired man is being seriously considered.
At the same time with increased attention to the guy, the girl becomes picky about herself, because she constantly worries about the impression she makes on him when she meets. In the first place under the attack of self-criticism falls, of course, appearance! If you think: “How to understand if I fell in love with him?”, Then pay attention to the behavior. A girl in love to take care of not only the new image, which would have made an impression on the object of desire, but also about its status among others.
Why is that? The banal desire to impress not only by appearance but also by character plays its role. You become suddenly friendly and responsive with all your friends, even if you used to be completely different. Being in love has its positive sides, as it forces one to perform such things for which one did not have enough of one’s own self-control: to go on a strict diet, to go in for sports, to raise one’s intellectual level and to go in for education.
The most striking signs of excessive love and sympathy for a particular guy. Of course. There are those feelings that you experience when it appears. For girls. At the sight of their chosen one, heart palpitations, goosebumps, trembling, weakness in the legs, feeling of heat or cold are characteristic. Often also characterized by sudden weight loss, which occurs even without the introduction of a diet, because the girl may suffer loss of appetite and even insomnia. There is no sign of depression. Rather, on the contrary, there is a sudden activity, the desire to do something, unreasonable bouts of happiness and fun. The main and decisive sign of love is a complete loss of concentration and common sense, making the girl become too intrusive and easily accessible to the object of adoration.
How to determine the love of a guy?
The question of how to determine a man’s love is no less important, as many girls mistakenly perceive a flirt or even simple politeness, friendliness, as a sign of increased attention and affection.
In terms of love, the guys are quite simple: they react to the girl "here and now": during a meeting with her, they forget about friends and relatives, time, constantly reflects on a new future meeting.
Intrusiveness is also peculiar to guys. The young man constantly thinks about his beloved, observes the presence of her image in all his thoughts, plans for the future. He tries to devote all his free time to her. However, the characteristic is a change in musical preferences. Young people who previously listened to extremely heavy music suddenly add love songs and romantic songs to their playlists. He also strives to keep track of any activity of a girl on social networks, looks at her records, listens to music, which she placed on her page. In this way, the guys are trying to get as close as possible to their beloved, to understand her mood, experiences, state of mind.
At the same time, the affection and idealization of the girl is peculiar to the love of guys. They believe that it is the best, they are constantly mentally close to it, they themselves change for the better, trying to make an impression, make various joint plans for the future. Also do not forget about physical attraction! Young people more than the girls themselves want close and close contact, hugs and kisses, even simple joint walks holding hands.
