How to prevent divorce
After reading this text, you will learn: how to keep the family alive if it is on the verge of divorce? Why is it worth saving a relationship? What most often leads to a breakup? Actionable advice is based on personal life experiences for men and women who are willing to fight for their marriage.
Perhaps, many are familiar with the situation when conflicts and disagreements occur even in the most ideal relationship. Some couples work together to save the marriage, while others simply give up. 
Unfortunately, according to statistics, every second married couple decides to break up, without even trying to keep the family on the verge of divorce.
There can be many reasons for this. Here is some of them:
- Flaw(or excessive) attention to each other. Both the first and the second factor negatively affect family life. In the first case, we absolutely do not have enough time for the other half, which is why most of the conflicts occur. In the second case, on the contrary, we are simply tired of each other and need personal space.
- Family routine... No wonder they say that everyday life complicates and tests the relationship, but this happens only in the first years of marriage. Later, stability sets in and the husband or wife notices that every day is the same. Spouses just get bored of mutual society and monotony of life.
- Treason... Constant family conflicts, excessive jealousy, lack of attention and care, often push one of the spouses into the arms of the other person. It is difficult for the second partner to forgive betrayal. However, nothing is impossible, and if a traitor sincerely repents of his deed, it might be worth giving him a chance?
Whatever the reason for the disagreement, you should ask yourself the question: "Do I want to be right or happy?" and then your heart and our advice will help you find a way out of this situation.
Family split or what to fight for
Think back to how you met your significant other. This day is probably clearly reflected in the memory. Then even the thought did not arise that the whole future life would be connected with this person.
Perhaps at that time you together made a lot of efforts to connect your union with a stamp in your passport. What is happening now? After all, parting is the easiest thing, and you definitely have something to fight for!
Of course, "someone else's family - darkness" and everything is very individual. But you just need to be alone with your thoughts in order to think calmly. 
Psychologists advise you to take a piece of paper, cut it into two equal parts and write down the pros and cons of your married life or the merits and demerits of your spouse. Then carefully re-read everything and highlight the main thing.
If a child is growing up in your family, you need to take care of his feelings. Children at any age are very worried and suffer from the fact that parents begin to live separately. After a divorce, most of them often need the help of a psychologist. Isn't that an incentive to keep the marriage going? So that the baby has a happy full-fledged family.
Over the years you have been married, you probably have a lot of pleasant memories. And all the disadvantages of the second half are not so great in comparison with the advantages.
And the troubles that are happening now are only a temporary crisis, and it can be overcome by the joint efforts of both partners! 
If a wife wants a divorce, then her reserve of patience has been exhausted (of course, when it does not concern the other man). In this case, the spouses should calmly talk and find out specific claims to each other and the opportunity to settle the conflict peacefully.
If the dialogue does not work out, the man needs to take matters into his own hands and do the following:
- Add romance. The constant lack of time for the spouse led to bad consequences. Do not forget that a woman loves to be surprised and achieved. Flowers for no reason, a romantic dinner, compliments, an unexpected gift - all this will not go unnoticed by your chosen one.
- Find hobbies together... A common hobby brings people together. Spouses will always have something to talk about, and this is important in the well-being of family relations. Spending more time together will give you the opportunity to observe each other from the outside. A look from the outside sometimes leads to the emergence of new feelings.
- Show calmness and patience... During an argument, we do not contain our anger and often turn to screaming. In response, the partner reciprocates us, it turns out a scandal. Try to respond to your wife's caustic phrases with a smile, kiss, or declaration of love. Then she simply will not have a reason and desire to swear.
If the husband wants a divorce, first of all, it is necessary to find out the specific reason for such a desire. If this is not the case with the other woman (and sometimes in this case as well), it is worth fighting to save the marriage by all available means.
To get started, follow these tips:
- Praise your husband. Men love compliments too. Try to praise your spouse for every little thing: you fixed the tap, bought food - well done. Do not "nag" him for any reason. Sometimes, it is much better to remain silent for the sake of the health of your nervous system and family well-being.
- Get yourself in order... A beautiful woman is the pride of a man. Sometimes, it is enough to change your hairstyle and buy more revealing underwear for the husband to understand that his wife is the best in the whole wide world. In addition, the attention to your person of other men will not remain unnoticed by your spouse, but slight jealousy, only for the good.
- Be gentle. A man appreciates women's care. Pleasant words, support in a difficult situation, a warm dinner, relaxing massage and passionate sex are minor moments of a happy and long-term relationship. A man will always return to the house, where he is loved and expected.
If a married couple cannot cope with family conflict on their own, it is worth resorting to the help of a qualified psychologist. A sober look from the outside will help to understand the situation and resolve it peacefully.
Family is the meaning of our life. Remember, after all, you took an oath "to be together in joy and in sorrow"? Invite your significant other to fulfill it and save the marriage by avoiding divorce. For the sake of your family happiness. For love. For the sake of the children.
