How to return an ex-girlfriend if she fell out of love. Step by step instructions and tips.
Probably, in every guy's life, the idea arose of how to return an ex-girlfriend if she fell out of love and her feelings completely disappeared. When a beloved girl leaves a guy, it is always a sad and very sad event that drives inexperienced guys into deep prostration and painful melancholy for the soul.
You, like almost all the other guys, immediately after a non-mutual separation from your soulmate, began to ask the question: "Why did she act so heartlessly to me?" And indeed, how could she act so ruthlessly, because everything in your relationship was perfect, stable and harmonious. 
It seemed that with her the one and only one could already make grandiose plans for the future, marry and have children, but suddenly something changed in her head, and she decided to leave you to fend for herself and go to her new lover.
The feeling is terribly very unpleasant and painful, you realize that your beloved has left you, and she has a new boyfriend, with whom she constantly walks, kisses for Instagram and, probably, the most painful for you - passionately having sex with him and about tells this to all his girlfriends.
You, as an ex-boyfriend, upon learning about this information, start to go crazy and start shedding your tears into the pillow on which you once lay with your girlfriend.
It seems to you that you are doomed for the rest of your life and you will never be able to get your beloved back. All those who think so are mistaken, because you can get your soul mate back.
Even if your girlfriend has lost confidence in you, you have every chance to awaken her feelings and interest in you again. Now try to pull yourself together and follow the instructions that will be outlined below.
What not to do if you want to get your girlfriend and former relationship back.
1. No need to apologize and ask your ex to come back.
In principle, you can apologize and ask the girl for forgiveness, but this should only be done if you have offended or offended her in some way and she does not want to see you. But, if the girl decided to leave you and leave you, then it is better not to apologize to her and not ask anything from her.
The girls take the issue of parting very seriously and in this regard they are firmly decisive, if the girl is going to leave you, then she will do it.
There is no sense in apologizing and asking the girl to return, she understands and deeply realizes that the time has come to part with her past and start a new life with another young man who will suit her much more.
Another factor that may be taken into account is that your ex already has a new boyfriend with whom she is comfortable and all your apologies and requests will be in vain.
With all your apologies and requests, you will try to prove that you will change and become better for her, but she will subconsciously understand that you will not evoke any love feelings in her again, since you won't be cute.
If you have already apologized to the girl and asked her for forgiveness up to this point, then know that you have made mistakes that are unfavorable for yourself and now you need to abruptly stop doing this, since you are only aggravating your situation. Therefore, no more apologies, requests and humiliations.
2. Don't push the girl with pity.
Don't try to make your ex feel sorry for you. Don't tell her how bad and sad you are without her. In no case do not leave various tragic statuses and notes on your wall.
Remember, a girl will never feel love and passion for the man for whom she feels pity. The girl will be much more attracted by the fact that after the breakup you will show your self-sufficiency and self-confidence than if you show the girl how you cannot live without her.
In this case, she will understand that you are a rag and her nose will even twitch towards you and a feeling of self-importance will appear due to the fact that because of her you are suffering from unrequited love.
Stop complaining to her immediately and pull yourself together. Parting with a loved one is a very, very painful and painful moment in our life, but you take and clench your hands into fists and let your mental wound heal faster.
Remember that a real man is a man who is not afraid that someday a girl or wife will leave him.
3. Don't call or text your ex-girlfriend.
Do not show your girlfriend that you are interested in her, as your girlfriend is most likely already interested in another man, and against her background you will look like an annoying boy who can no longer cling to anything.
Realize already, finally, the fact that you are no longer interesting and attractive, your endless calls and the creation of casual meetings will only annoy your girlfriend and it will repel you in her eyes.
Girls are not attracted to those boys who try to look after them, run and achieve them, such boys are devalued in their eyes. Girls are attracted to exactly those guys whose hearts they themselves want to get.
Hard-to-reach guys always attract and attract girls, and because of your letters and constant calls, you are not hard-to-reach and therefore the girl is not interested in you.
4. Don't try to be a friend.
If you remain a good friend to the girl, then you will also owe her everything, but at the same time you will not get sex. Do you think you need that kind of friendship in the hope that you'll be dating your girlfriend again? 
You are wrong, you will remain in the friend zone with your girlfriend, and she will use you and still meet and have sex with another young man.
She will tell you, as her “girlfriend,” the juicy moments of her relationship with a new guy, and you will listen to all this with pain in your heart.
If you want to return your girlfriend, then do not try to help her forever as a friend and give useful advice, perhaps she will understand with her brains that you are a very good guy and you should be dating, but girls love with emotions and they need passion.
No matter how good and correct you are, even if in some ways better than the girl's new boyfriend, if she has no passion for you, then she will not be with you, so let's find out what needs to be done in order so that the girl has a passion for you again.
What should you do if you want to return your beloved girl and her feelings for you.
1. Begin to toughly engage in self-development.
It looks very trite and primitive, but in fact there are two reasons for doing this seriously:
- With the help of self-development, it will be much easier for you to get over the breakup.
- Self-development will improve you and it will help you become newer and more updated.
When you really start taking care of yourself, you will think less about the pain your ex has caused you. It will be much easier for you to deal with stress, and you will more or less be able to pull yourself together and stop losing your composure.
Thanks to real self-development, you will become much better than you once were with a girl before.
Remember, no matter how compassionate and bad your girlfriend treats you, she will still occasionally visit your pages on social networks after breaking up, and because of her female curiosity, she will check how you live there without her. If your girlfriend will notice from photographs and notes that you have changed for the better, then believe that this will strongly cling to her.
2. Find self-sufficiency in yourself and slightly show it to everyone around you.
Stay as happy as you were before breaking up with your girlfriend. Perhaps in your soul you will have a small pain and a passionate craving for your love, but you should hide it from others and not show it.
Try to hide your feelings and try to live perfectly with optimistic thoughts for tomorrow.
Do not tell anyone about how bad and terrible you are, all rumors will spread very much and they will be able to reach your girlfriend's ears. Even if you have a best friend, try to tell him as little as possible about all your sufferings and worries, as silence is gold.
3. Start exploring your girlfriend.
During your self-development, take the time to study your girlfriend in order to better match the image of her desired boyfriend.
To follow a girl on social networks is, of course, low and slightly humiliating, but, in any case, it is very effective in order to find out all the preferences of your girlfriend, the main thing is only so that your surveillance is not noticed.
Finding out the information is not at all difficult, there are many applications that will help you find out what your girlfriend likes and what places she goes to. All your collected information will help you get your girlfriend back in the future, but before that you need to do one more step - it is to disappear.
4. Disappear from her field of vision for at least six months.
In order for your girlfriend to have feelings for you again, you need to disappear. Disappear for at least six months and not have any contact with the girl, her friends and relatives. Become a new mystery for her that will attract her curiosity to you.
Do not be afraid to disappear from the girl, thus you will not lose her, since you have already lost her for yourself and she is with another.
During the disappearance - take care of yourself, study, swing, earn more money, develop spiritually and change your style of dress.
Young woman- a very cunning creature who always thinks about his fallback and if suddenly your girlfriend is abandoned, then she will be able to return to you without any feelings.
Know that you don't need such a return, as it is temporary and will last until your girlfriend falls in love with a new guy and then leaves you again.
It is possible that in 2-3 months the girl will sometimes start writing to you and calling to check whether you are on the hook, to give you new hope, such is their psychology.
In order to prevent this from happening to you, you need to take the girl with an easy ignore. This does not mean that you need to completely isolate the girl from yourself, you just need to occasionally answer her calls and talk for 15 seconds on all sorts of neutral topics. Show that you are not interested in her, unlike her.
5. Be persistent.
You must decide for yourself when you are ready to return the girl, but the main thing is not to delay it too much, as the girl may already get married and have children.
If your girlfriend is already married and has children, you should not return her, do not destroy someone else's marriage and let the children remain in a full-fledged parental family. If your girlfriend is free or if she has a guy, then you need to act efficiently.
If a girl writes to you or calls you, then take action. Start talking more, but at the same time communicate on various neutral topics.
Start organizing casual meetings and keep your distance with the girl and do not show her your feelings.
Continue to communicate unobtrusively and try, by mutual agreement, to take the girl to your home or to another intimate place. In an intimate place, you must carefully observe the girl and if you see openness, sparkle in her eyes, then wait for the most appropriate moment and passionately take her and do with her whatever she wants.
How to understand what needs to be done next if you were able to return your love after a long separation?
If you wanted to return the girl in order to raise your ego and stop feeling inferior, then decide for yourself whether you want to be with this girl or not. If you wanted to return the girl because you loved her madly, then be with her and do not commit anymore. those mistakes that you have made before.
In the near future, propose to your beloved girl and, as soon as possible, try to have children with her, let your affection strengthen you even more.
You will succeed and you have a chance, remember that sometimes fate divides loved ones in order for their feelings to warm up even more, and they understand how important and dear to each other. If you broke up, then all is not lost, if you left, then it is not a fact that forever.
