Tip 1: How to understand your feelings for a person
Instructions
Answer a few questions for yourself, be honest, otherwise this test will not be useful. What attracts you to your soulmate? If an appearance, a slender figure, a cute face is a hobby. Only interest in a person can speak of deeper the senses NS. Naturally, appearance should not be in last place, as well as physical attraction, but if the spiritual inner world of your partner is not important to you, there can be no talk of love.
How did the relationship start? Love does not arise instantly, but there are exceptions, but this is one case in a thousand. We met, a spark flashed, time passed, it faded away, that's the whole development of most of these scenarios, which testify only to passion. To truly fall in love, it takes some time, at least to get to know a person better.
What is your attitude towards others? When we are carried away by someone, the world around us does not seem to exist, only your passion is before our eyes, and love implies that the person you have chosen is naturally more important than everyone else, but there are still friends, relatives, and work in life.
Understand your the senses you can, thinking about the anticipated future. If you want to be made a happy person, if in the first place from the relationship you are looking for benefits for yourself, then such a relationship is nothing more than a hobby. True love has always been, is and will be disinterested. The desire to give all of yourself to your beloved man without demanding anything in return, it can testify to love. Selfishness and love are incompatible things.
Sources:
- feelings of a person to a person
Any relationship primarily involves mutual understanding. If you are not understood, this does not mean that your partner is to blame, perhaps it is you who do not know how to express your feelings correctly. Do not despair. The art of right relationships can be learned.
Instructions
First, evaluate how easy it is for you to meet people and make new acquaintances. To do this, just go to a passer-by and find out what time it is or ask for directions. If you understand that this is quite difficult for you, you will have to practice. Force yourself to communicate, learn to easily find contacts with people. Very soon after such training, things will go smoothly.
Learn to smile. Think hard and answer the question: do you often smile at all? Not on duty, but just like that - to passers-by, family and friends? Go to the mirror and find that one, one and only, your smile. Then, for at least one day, try to smile more often, without, to familiar and unfamiliar people. Give them a piece of warmth and love. In the future, the ability to smile will be very useful to you.
Learn to compliment. How often do you compliment your loved ones? How difficult is it for you to tell someone you know they have a great new haircut? Try to compliment people more often, let them be happy, and you, in the meantime, exercise.
Learn to touch while talking. Of course, it is necessary to observe the zones, and it is not at all necessary to touch an unfamiliar business partner by the sleeve and cheek. But carefully and naturally, touching the interlocutor, for example, is not only possible, but even necessary. This will create a trusting atmosphere. If you find it difficult to touch a person, practice on your friends and loved ones. Learn to hug them. It is believed that a hug is a more intimate and confidential gesture than even touching the hand, so do not neglect it if possible.
Do you often tell loved ones that you love them? Stop being shy or afraid of words about love. They are natural and beautiful. Your and family will be so pleased to hear from you how much you love them! Learn to talk about your feelings so that you can later reveal your feelings to your loved one.
Otherwise, learn to be open, sincere and sociable - and then everything will work out for you! Good luck to you!
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To express your the senses, there are not enough words, sometimes there are too many words, and none of them seems suitable. Expressing emotions is as much a skill as writing or cycling. And practice will help here, practice and practice again.
Instructions
Consider exactly what you want to say. Make your thoughts more specific. To sort out your emotions, talk about them with someone else you trust and who knows you well. Read books, lyrics, correspondence between Mayakovsky and Lily Brik. Poets are able to express in one precise turn the entire complexity of emotional experiences, the nuances of human feelings. Learn this art from them. You don't have to memorize Byron's poems or quote Petrarch. Perhaps you will choose simpler and more prosaic words, but most importantly - your own.
Remember, people find it easier to organize their thoughts when they put them on paper. Psychologists advise you to write down your the senses from a third person, as if it were a stranger. Get creative. Write a short dialogue to try out different options. This technique will allow you to relax and throw out all your emotions on paper. After this exercise, you will have a better understanding of what you want to say.
If it's easier for you to express in writing the senses, refer to the epistolary genre. But instead of using SMS and social media, write a real paper letter. Many people miss envelopes, postage stamps, and jagged lines with emotional strikethroughs and margins. A paper letter will emphasize the personal, intimate nature of the message. If you are not ready to fill the whole sheet with your thoughts and the senses mi, use a postcard. In this case, even a very laconic letter will not seem too small.
Place colored stickers on the walls, on each of which write the name of one of the feelings you are experiencing. For example, if it is difficult to find words for an apology, write on the stickers: "remorse", "regret", "sadness", "loneliness", "pain", "love". When the person to whom you are addressing such a message finds all the notes, explain each of them. If you want to confess your love, use helium balloons instead of stickers. Then you can give a whole bunch of your feelings.
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Helpful advice
Write a message on the asphalt under the windows of your loved one. This technique, although not new, is still effective. By staying short, you can express a lot.
There are situations and relationships when it is impossible to accurately determine your own feelings. Their diversity and contradictions cause irritation and concern. But the worst thing is that because of long doubts you can lose a really dear person.
If you cannot define your feelings towards a young man, try to break up with him for a while. The best way to do this is to go on a trip. Perhaps for a long separation you will understand how much you miss him. Or, on the contrary, you will feel that you absolutely do not need it.
Another option is to live together. This will show if you are ready for a more serious relationship and how much you fit together. After all, it's one thing to meet from time to time in a romantic setting, and it's quite another to live in the same room, solve everyday and pressing issues, see each other in a bad and depressed mood.
Think about whether you are ready to give your child such a father. If you are tormented by even the slightest doubts or there are some "buts", you should not continue to build a serious relationship, since this issue is fundamental in love and marriage.
Get to know the person better. Perhaps the inconsistency of your feelings comes from the fact that you know very little of him. Try to talk more, ask him about his dreams and aspirations, find out about the problems that he solves, his interests and hobbies. Maybe this will help you make your choice.
Do not hesitate to ask him for help in difficult situations, because it is at such moments that the soul of a person and his feelings are revealed. No matter how wonderful and affectionate he was at meetings, everything can change in difficult times - not everyone is capable of self-sacrifice or infringement of their interests for the sake of others.
Not knowing how to act in any situation, try to consider it from a variety of sides, and not only from the one that is closer and more convenient to you. In any case, taking risks and trying is always better than doing nothing and missing out on all the chances given by fate.
Be careful not to judge others, but to speak in the first person. For example, if you are upset that your partner showed up home so late but didn’t tell you ahead of time, you are more likely to tell that person that he or she is behaving badly towards you. Instead, you should say that you are upset with someone like that, that you expected him earlier and hoped to see you soon. Talk about how you feel, even if it looks awkward. The fact is that people, both adults and children, do not like very much when they are criticized or evaluated. Even when trying to communicate that you feel bad, you run the risk of not being heard if you clothe it with a reproach or a claim to which the other person will react with a protest.
Talk about your feelings in a simple tone. It often happens that it is incredibly difficult to tell in simple words that you are sad or painful, fun or exciting. In this case, people use a wrapper: irony, sarcasm, a joke. But the interlocutor will not understand that you are sincere, he will decide that this is irony or sarcasm. The simpler your tone and words, the more likely it is that the meaning they convey will reach the addressee.
Choose your time. Sometimes people are in a hurry to "dump" everything that worries them on the head of the interlocutor, not noticing that he is tired or that he is preoccupied with something. The more important it is to you to be heard, the more carefully choose the moment to speak about your feelings. Of course, you should not go to the opposite extreme: considering that there is no right moment, you should not say anything.
It happens that a person for so long suppressed in himself not only the desire to share his feelings, but also theirs, that it turns out that it is difficult to say about them even to himself. It is helpful to keep a journal to understand exactly how you are feeling. This is a practice that psychologists and psychotherapists often advise. Even Lev Tolstoy wrote that a diary is a way to talk with oneself, with one's true self. Don't miss this opportunity. Once you understand what your feelings are, you will find a way to express them in the best way.
