How to show a man that you like him?
For some women, this question is very relevant. How to show a man that you like him and not impose on him?
Someone simply does not know how to behave better in order to demonstrate to a man their disposition. The result is disastrous: women miss opportunities for building promising relationships and, in addition, are disappointed in themselves, in men and in life.
Let's figure out how to avoid this.
I warn you right away: here there will be no hackneyed topics, a la:
- "shoot" with his eyes (and look intently, but not for long!);
When talking, the socks of your shoes should be looking at him;
You have to adjust to his breathing (and faint, because he breathes 3 times less often than you);
Try to be somewhere near him all the time (and follow him to the toilet and warm up buckwheat in the microwave in the office);
Etc. etc.…
This is not about that. We will talk about deeper things, about principles and mechanisms.
So let's go!
Need
Let's start with an axiom: a man is doomed to feel sympathy for a woman if she gives him the opportunity to feel needed... I'm not talking about love-carrots, but sympathy is ironclad.
Even if she took 1st place in the competition "The Scariest Baba Yaga of the Year".
Even if she's only a little cuter than the hunchback from Notre Dame. No matter.
A man is made like that. Want to show a man that you like him - give him a sense of his own need.
Now, wherever you spit, men are not particularly needed:
Technological progress is everywhere;
There is no need to lift weights;
Everything works at home even without a man;
The townspeople are hardly familiar with rough physical labor;
And if something breaks down, you can always hire someone for money ...
Therefore, create situations in which your masculine object feels valuable and needed.
It is clear that you do not need to call your colleague from the office to fix your shelf at home (this is fraught), but ask him to move the table, pour you tea, hold the door, move a dozen heavy folders with documents, open / close a window, help set up an antivirus program - sweet a business. Everything is built from such little things.
Gratitude
Excellent, we sorted it out with the need. You understood what you can and should ask a man who is attractive to you and he (with an adequate approach) begins to safely "farm" at you.
What's next? There must be a reward! How can you reward your as-yet-unapproved hero? Kisses are too early. Steaming homemade pancakes with raspberry filling - even more so, so you have to look for something more suitable for the occasion, for example ... gratitude.
Gratitude is not just an embarrassed muttering, looking either at the floor or at his shoes: "Yeah thanks" or "Uh-huh, ok"... This is trash, not gratitude. This is a formality.
You need the gratitude that comes from within. Look at your helper with a soft, warm look and actually express your gratitude.
To express means to give her a way out, beyond the limits of the “Thank you” on duty.
Express means put into it not only a set of sounds, but also your look, emotions, energy.
Only then will your gratitude be complete.
I do not urge you to speak long pompous tirades - many simply cannot, without practice, give something like that sincerely. But you can even say one single word "Thanks" so that it will leave a mark on the heart of a man.
The main thing is to do it not as usual, but in a special way: almost in a whisper, slightly tilting the head from the vertical axis to one side, smiling softly, keeping eye contact, nodding slightly and slightly pulling the letter "and" in the middle of the word. Let's say so. This is just an example.
The main idea is that in your gratitude there should be "you", your personality and your positive attitude towards a man should be read. All this is extremely difficult to convey if you mutter something embarrassed on the floor, so rehearse so that you will be ready at the right time).
And of course even better if you can directly and honestly justify your "Thanks" by adding something like:
- “You helped me a lot, I couldn't have done it myself”;
- “It's a dark forest for me, it's great that you helped me with this program”;
- “Without you, I wouldn't have moved this huge thing,” and so on.
Only sincere laughter from the heart
Laughter is a great indicator that a man can take as your signal of sympathy for him.
How it works? Often, girls are encouraged to laugh at the man's jokes, even if they find nothing funny in them.
This position is quite understandable, but it belongs to the category "Already Married Unbearable", and this attitude in our business is completely unacceptable.
And let's look deeper. Here the girl laughs at some stupid jokes that she does not like, or even completely offend her. The man considers himself almost a modern Cicero and Demosthenes in one person.
The first option - you will run out of patience and you will tell him everything that you think about his "flat jokes". The deception will be revealed, and a man's disappointment can be quite solid.
The second option - you will endure them until the end of the century, boiling inside with anger and spoiling your health.
Other options are less common, therefore, think in advance about whether it is worth imitating your emotions, knowingly deceiving both yourself and the man.
Therefore, in order to show a man that you like him, laughter and a smile, of course, should be used. With only one amendment - they must be sincere.
Insincere manifestations of a woman will only alienate adequate men - they will be seen as an attempt to manipulate their feelings to draw attention to your person.
Don't confuse arrogance and self-esteem
From all sides, girls are told that they need to be inaccessible to a man, that this is what will lead to the correct development of relations. That is how it is, but how do many understand this inaccessibility?
1. Someone closes in and completely "squeezes" their feelings, believing that the absence of emotions is the very inaccessibility.
Result: Nerve problems, chronic illness formation and depression.
2. Someone jumps into bed with a man, but then they can't get through - they don't pick up the phone.
Result: Self-deception. In reality, a woman gives herself completely to a man for free, but she consoles herself with the thought that, on the other hand, she is inaccessible in little things. Such children's games.
3. Someone "turns off" potential boyfriends, even if they show attention to them, thinking that "If he really wants a relationship, he will try many, many times".
Result: The conviction that all the peasants around are spineless weaklings.
4. And someone does look down on men at all, believing that they will dance around them like around a pagan idol, even if their muzzle is a brick.
Result: arrogance is formed as a character trait and a woman destroys both the man's health and relations with him.
So what is inaccessibility? Inaccessibility is:
When you do not allow yourself to be dragged into bed (especially if you yourself are not ready for this);
When you are not a "trough-drinker" for a man;
And even more so, do not live together with you or with him.
In almost everything else, you can be very accessible, and it will be right.
It is unreasonable to "turn off" a man in the hope of repeated attempts;
It is dangerous to “strangle” your feelings and emotions;
It is foolish to sleep with a man ahead of time;
It is disastrous to look down on men.
Therefore, you should always remember the difference between arrogance and self-esteem.
There is no place for warmth in arrogance in relation to another person, but there is a feeling of superiority, overestimation of their capabilities and arrogance.
Dignity, on the other hand, implies that you respect yourself and recognize your worth. This is what allows women to make constructive, i.e. constructive rather than destructive steps, especially at the initial stage of a relationship.
The interest on the part of a man should be greater
Many people think: “If I don’t take the first step, then he certainly won’t take it”... There can be two reasons for this:
1. You are not interested in him in principle.
Question: - And you still want to impose?
2. This is an indecisive type who has no idea what to do even with his life.
Question: - And why the hell did such a slobber surrender to you?
Do you really want to build a relationship with someone who isn't even interested in you?
Or do you want to date someone who is unable to fulfill basic male function- to show a woman that he is interested in her?
The man's interest should be greater than yours, so don't go overboard with the first step.
Otherwise, you run the risk of getting a "private" at your disposal, and you yourself will become overgrown with "general's shoulder straps" - and the further, the more, until you fully take on the male role in relationships or family.
For individual couples, this is a normal story, but most women want to see their men not as servants who constantly need to be commanded and prodded, but as strong, independent, responsible and mature people.
A woman is able to make a huge contribution to the formation of a man at the stage of forming relationships, but for this you need to go through it correctly, taking into account the characteristics of the male psyche and behavior.
Best regards, D.O. Naumenko,
Your guide to the world of relationships.
