How to understand that your feelings for a person have cooled down?
Admitting to yourself that relationships are slowly but surely dying is often difficult. Often we deceive ourselves, afraid of being alone after a long relationship, but in fact we feel that love is fading. What are the signs that feelings are in agony and relationships cannot be saved?
You see more faults in a person than virtues
Being in love puts rose-colored glasses on us - we do not see flaws in a person. Over time, the euphoria passes, but our sober look, noticing the minuses, does not detract from the numerous virtues of a loved one. When the feelings fade away, the shortcomings of our partner come to the fore, overshadowing all the pluses. We become intolerant of even those little things that we used to react calmly to. This is an alarming symptom that speaks of changes in your attitude towards your loved one.
You are constantly angry at the person
You no longer have enough patience and endurance - you get angry, scandalous, offended and constantly express dissatisfaction. You get annoyed at every little thing, every day you notice a lot of things that can piss you off. Especially speaking is anger for no reason. If you begin to annoy not only the behavior, but also the characteristics of your partner - his facial expressions, habits, gestures, appearance, speech - then this is a clear sign of outgoing love.
You need to be alone more and more
Previously, you wanted to spend every free minute with your loved one, but now you can seriously choose between an evening with him or alone. This suggests that you are no longer comfortable in a society with a chosen one. Communication with him began to burden you. There can be a lot of reasons - constant conflicts, divergence of interests, indifference to each other's life. Whatever the reason, regularly choosing to be alone or in the company of other people speaks of a chasm between you that only continues to grow.
You don't see a shared future
Previously, dreams of a joint future were drawn by themselves, but now you are increasingly making plans for a life where there is no organic place for a lover. If you do not see him next to you in a few years, then think about it - maybe subconsciously you have long deleted this person from your life?
You no longer want intimacy
It is not for nothing that family psychologists begin their session with a question about the sexual intimacy of spouses. Intimate life is one of the most striking indicators of the state of relations between partners. Lack of sexual desire is a sure sign of fading love.
You can imagine yourself with another person
If you can imagine yourself next to another person when thinking about your life and future, then this is a depressing symptom for your current relationship. You are open to new people and live with the feeling that another person may appear in your life - better and more worthy than the previous one. The current chosen one no longer seems to you the best candidate for the role of your companion, and you will always doubt him, waiting for a more suitable person to appear on the horizon. In such a situation, relationships become an unnecessary yoke around the neck, preventing them from starting a new life.
You no longer seek to solve problems
The desire to understand the causes of quarrels is a natural impulse that indicates that you value the person and your relationship. But now another conflict causes only a desire to escape, if only not to discuss the accumulated grievances once again. Entering into an argument sometimes, you blame and reproach your partner for all the mistakes, recalling many episodes from the past. If this situation is familiar to you, then you let the relationship take its course, having no more strength and desire to fight for a happy future with this person.
You are not afraid to offend a person
You no longer choose tactful words when trying to explain to your partner, and you can react coolly or even indifferently to his declarations of love. In your thoughts, you just became honest with yourself and now call a spade a spade, but such honesty suggests that the feelings of the chosen one are no longer in the first place for you.
You no longer confess your love
You no longer want to lie, first of all to yourself, and do not say “I love you”, because now it does not come from the heart. Occasionally, a confession may come out of your mouth, but this happens rarely and most likely out of habit. The reluctance to tell a person about your love for him is the most important signal that love is no longer there.
