Relationships after divorce: how to find new love
How to build a relationship after a divorce? Practical advice for both women and men.
Away with doubt
What to hide, you still sincerely want to build a good relationship, full of love, tenderness and passion. Your failed experience should not hinder you on the way to the goal, should not cause fear.
Now you need to learn to trust again in order to find a person with whom you will be incredibly good. But don't forget what life has already taught you. So go ahead!
Work on yourself
To start a new chapter in life, you need to work hard. For this you need:
- put things in order in your head(analyze all past mistakes, draw certain conclusions);
- get rid of the past(try not to even talk about your former relationships with loved ones);
- tune in to the right wave(be mentally prepared for new connections);
- fix your appearance(go to the hairdresser, update your wardrobe, correct your figure - both women and men love with their eyes);
- work on self development(in your free time, read interesting literature, watch documentaries, etc. - this way you will become a more interesting conversationalist).
Don't stay at home
Within four walls, you definitely will not make new acquaintances. In addition, staying at home, you risk falling into depression from loneliness and routine.
In order to eliminate this, you need to maximize your communication through some of the following options:
- actively communicate with friends (may even remember old, long-unsupported connections);
- do not refuse to be present at holidays, weddings and other festive events;
- enroll in a circle of interests (dancing, swimming, etc.);
- go to the gym or fitness;
- visit a nightclub, etc.
Helpful information
It is better to resort to communication through online dating as a last resort. Firstly, you will spend a lot of useful time there, and secondly, virtual communication is full of deception.
Yes, and psychologists have proven that such acquaintances develop an unhealthy sports interest in a person: he makes an appointment with one interlocutor, a second, a third, begins to compare, trying to find the ideal, then decides to “try” the next batch of dates in the hope of finding something better, etc. d.
Let everyone be aware
Tell all your friends, acquaintances, relatives that you intend to start a new relationship. Maybe one of them has a suitable candidate to make you happy?
What is good about getting to know each other through such "intermediaries" is that you already initially have at least some information about the person you are about to meet.
seduce
For women
There are women who have it in their blood. But some, being married for a long time, forget what needs to be done to attract the attention of the man they like.
And for this you need:
- look flawless;
- be able to present yourself (keep your posture, have a beautiful walk, etc. - all this is quite easy to learn);
- flirt (look at him with interest, smile at him unambiguously, make a couple of compliments, etc.);
- do not forget about modesty;
- joke and encourage his sense of humor;
- be self-confident (but if you are very shy, tell your chosen one honestly about this - this can be a kind of bonus for you).
For men
It is easy to find an interesting girl, but to attract and keep her attention - you need to try.
For this you need:
- be confident in yourself (this is very important!);
- not be afraid to look funny or stupid (in any such situation, everything can simply be reduced to a joke);
- be interested in her life, interests, views (most girls like to talk);
- tell only acceptable things about yourself (definitely not how you had a good time last Friday, or tried to seduce a red-haired beauty);
- be attentive to her;
- do not forget about good manners;
- over-persistently strive to put her to bed on the first day, etc.
You must be needed
For women
This does not mean “mother's work”, but a skillful combination of three hypostases: hostess, mistress and friend. For this you need:
- set up a trust relationship;
- talk on any topic;
- be interested in his affairs;
- always remain sexy and desirable;
- develop in the field of love art;
- to be a graceful woman in front of people, and with him a perky girl;
- surround him with affection and care;
- to please him with interesting little things (a note on the refrigerator, breakfast in bed, SMS of an intriguing nature, etc.);
- serve delicious food;
- not be demanding, but make him want to give you everything you want;
- sometimes let him be jealous of you, etc.
Forget about things like:
- blackmail (for example, sexual);
- system "give to give";
- paranoid jealousy;
- prohibition of meetings with friends (within reasonable limits);
- eternal fatigue;
- putting yourself in order only when going out (you should try first of all for him), etc.
Only by becoming a person from whom he takes his breath away, you can not only easily start a new relationship after a divorce, but most importantly, find the most precious person.
For men
It is easier for representatives of the strong half of humanity to do this, since women are more constant in relationships.
But still, do not miss your newfound happiness, the following recommendations will help you:
- show your masculine nature (women love decisive and enterprising);
- be attentive (to her affairs, health);
- become a good lover just for her (you can diversify your sex life in every possible way - act as an initiator);
- do not forget about your duties (nail a nail, fix a car, etc.);
- speak words of love and be gentle (this is very important - this way you will always fuel your relationship);
- be able to ask for forgiveness if you are to blame;
- take initiative in HER life (sit with children, go to the cinema together);
- sometimes do not forget and be jealous (otherwise she will think that you are indifferent, or you are not afraid of losing her), etc.
And you will always be a plus if you forget about things like:
- assault;
- weekly parties with friends;
- moral humiliation;
- comparison with other girls;
- avarice;
- mention of life with his wife.
- Forget about past relationships. If you met a new person, you can casually talk about why your marriage ended, but without details. Also, when you communicate with a new interlocutor, do not compare him with an ex-husband or wife: either out loud or in your thoughts. After all, you have begun a new life that you create yourself!
- Approach the issue responsibly choosing a chosen one / chosen one. You already had a mistake that was resolved by divorce. Now be smarter and more reasonable. Do not look only at the merits of a new passion: in the process of communication, analyze whether you can put up with one or another shortcoming. Also, do not flirt with everyone - do not exchange for trifles, so as not to waste your time and not spoil your reputation.
- Take care of children's well-being. Your dates should not be at the expense of your offspring. Do not leave them too often in the care of relatives and friends, just to arrange your life.
How to build a new happiness with a child
Confession
It is important to talk about your child. Of course, not in the first 5 minutes of communication, but not after a farewell kiss.
First you need to intrigue the person with your persona so that he later remembers you with awe. Some people need a few moments, some half an hour, some more.
Know how to properly present yourself. This is especially true for women, because, as a rule, the presence of children in a man does not cause a storm of fear and emotions that can bring communication to nothing. 
Acquaintance
You should not rush into this, because, perhaps, the person you have chosen is not at all the one you need. And if children get acquainted with all your passions in this way, their psyche will be irrevocably broken.
It is best if you plan the meeting in advance: prepare a family dinner, buy tickets for attractions or movies, etc. (depending on the age of the children).
Communication
In a situation where it did not immediately work out well, you must fix it yourself. If the child does not want to accept a stepfather / stepmother, tell him that the person you have chosen is not bad at all (name his good qualities).
Ask the adult, for his part, to be softer and more proactive (he came up with a game, “won” tickets to an entertainment center, etc.).
If your loved one is in a bad mood, try to explain how important it is to you that they be friends. Have you failed to convince him? Think many times whether you can live with your chosen one / chosen one, seeing how he causes moral damage to your child.
If you cannot find a compromise due to the fault of an adult, give your preference to the baby, because you must first protect him, and not blindly live your happiness.
co-parenting
If you decide to start a life together, immediately agree on aspects of education: what do you think is acceptable and what is unacceptable for you. You must not only speak, but also listen. Ask the chosen one / chosen one to give certain arguments that can convince you if your points of view differ.
And most importantly, forget about scandals with children and setting them up against each other: you will then make peace, and the children will suffer.
