Quarrels with her husband
Perhaps there is no family in the world in which at least from time to time there were no quarrels. This phenomenon is unpleasant, but inevitable. For someone, quarrels with her husband turn into oppressive silence, for someone they turn into grandiose scandals with battered dishes. Moreover, they can arise due to sheer nonsense - an unwashed plate, a towel thrown anywhere, a mirror splashed with toothpaste, garbage not taken out ... Sometimes conflicts arise because of past grievances or often unreasonable jealousy. Often the monotony of family life, work and household stresses, fatigue become the cause of regular quarrels with her husband. One way or another, but we argue fervently, often later regretting it. Why it happens? And is it possible to somehow change this state of affairs?
Why do we fight
When we dream of starting a family with some person, we usually believe that we will be able to maintain romance in a relationship almost until old age. We think so. And life makes its own corrections. Time passes, and the romance from family life disappears somewhere. It is replaced by an endless series of everyday problems exhausting the nerves. And now the moment comes when the spouses can quarrel over any trifle. Moreover, to quarrel in such a way that it seems that the only way out of the situation can be a divorce.Frequent quarrels with her husband depress, drive into depression, do not allow sleep at night, joyfully rest and work calmly. In fact, the main reason for regular quarrels with the faithful is the inability to compromise and yield to each other. We get angry, start from a half turn, start screaming, proving our case. And then we calm down and often can't even remember, after which it all started. And we lament, reflecting on why we are unable to prevail over short-term emotions.
Often, the roots of such irrepressible aggression lie in a person's past. If for his parents a constant showdown with screaming and noise was the norm, then in his family a person will behave the same way. He can't do it any other way! Nobody taught ... Sometimes the increased aggressiveness of a husband or wife is explained by low self-esteem and a desire to assert themselves at the expense of their half. And sometimes an outbreak of rage for any reason is caused by fatigue, illness, stress.
We get angry when a spouse interferes with our plans, when he watches TV instead of helping around the house, when he throws socks and shirts anywhere ... We take out on him the insults caused by someone else. We just vent our anger because we fell under a hot hand, and he answers us in kind. Sad. Because there are a lot of examples of the breakdown of the family after the wife started some trifling quarrel with her husband. The neighbor over there threw a scandal because the faithful forgot to buy bread, and he took it and went to another. Absolutely.
What to do? Is it possible to deal with often unreasonable aggression and survive an outburst of rage without pouring out anger on a loved one? It is possible, if you call on patience for help and learn, if necessary, to sort things out in such a way that the spouse does not once slam the door and leave. 
How to quarrel with your husband
I must say that any husband and wife still have enough reasons to get angry with each other. Otherwise it can not be. These are close people, dependent on one another, who simply cannot always act only to please their half. No matter how life develops, but even when the spouses have been living together for more than a dozen years, they still remain different people. What the husband wants at the moment is not at all necessary for the wife. And vice versa. This is normal and suggests that conflicts in family life cannot be avoided. Well, or almost impossible. Though occasionally, but they will arise.What is the right way to behave so that an insignificant quarrel with your husband does not turn into a protracted war?
- No matter how much you want to mess with your spouse, if there are strangers nearby - relatives, friends, relatives - you should not begin to prove your innocence in their presence. Someone will definitely take one side or the other in the conflict. This will only add fuel to the fire and increase aggression. Therefore, it would be better to pull yourself together and postpone the showdown until a more suitable occasion. And there you look, and you will be able to calmly relive the cause of the conflict, looking at it from a different angle;
- If you cannot do without quarrels with your husband, we do not humiliate him during a scandal and do not insult him. We don't want him to leave, do we? And male pride is very vulnerable! If we begin to demonstrate that we do not put our faithful in anything, he will begin to look for one that will appreciate him. And he will find it! And then it will wash off. Because praises are sung there, but underestimated here;
- To avoid quarrels with your husband over trifles, we must try to discuss all the delicate issues with him in time and not be afraid to spread what is in our souls. He's a spouse, half, so he should be aware of his wife's condition! But, before embarking on a frank conversation, it will be useful to first think over what and how best to say. And only after that do you decide to have a sincere conversation;
- Before blaming your husband for something, you need to judge soberly - is he really so guilty? Perhaps his act can be easily experienced and forgotten? And we just screwed ourselves up and now we are burning with the desire to throw out rage on him ... We should wait a couple of hours. It is likely that later we will understand - there is simply no reason for a quarrel;
- If the initiator of scandals is usually the spouse, let's try to figure out what is happening to him. Let's talk to him heart to heart and ask what is so worried about the dear one. It may very well be that he is just waiting for that. If we do not find the courage to talk, we will find someone to open up to. And it turns out that first he opened his soul to someone, and then one fine day he went to her. And we will remain clapping our ears.
- When a spouse is quick-tempered and finds fault with trifles, we will observe him and find out what annoys the faithful most of all. If this is something specific, we will try to remove it. If the husband is annoyed by everything, it may be better for him to go somewhere for a while. Let him rest from his family and stay with his parents. It happens that it is beneficial for spouses to live apart for a while.
In general, in order to poison your existence with quarrels with your husband as rarely as possible, it is advisable to initially arrange the life of the family and communication with your soul mate in such a way that any annoying mistake of each other can be safely endured. To do this, you can make a tradition of some kind of joint sports: morning jogging, swimming, playing tennis or badminton, bowling, basketball, volleyball ... This is extremely close. And very useful for both, besides.
In general, to be or not to be frequent quarrels, largely depends on the woman. We appreciate ourselves and do not allow my husband to raise his voice with or without reason. But we are not trying to trample him either. More often we praise the spouse, but we praise for the cause. We will try to be his friend, while demonstrating that the merits of the faithful are assessed as expected. And the shortcomings are accepted condescendingly. We encourage his attempts to develop, eliminating the mocking tone from the circulation.
We advise, ask for help, claiming that my husband will do better than ours. We will become affectionate, caring, helpful. And we will not allow ourselves to be rude, even if he is rude. After all, men are almost more vulnerable than us. When something bites them, they become aggressive. The male self-defense method is as follows. In short, let's become more patient. We don't want him to leave one day, do we?
We will support my husband, help him solve some problem, try to understand what is in our souls. And if there is a quarrel, we learn to put up after it. 
How to put up with your husband after a scandal
How to put up with your husband after another scandal? Before trying to mend a relationship, you need to wait time to cool down and let him calm down. You need to realize what happened, and only then only approach your spouse with a white flag. Otherwise, reproaches will begin again, and a new battle will start instead of peace. Do not be afraid to take the initiative for a truce into your own hands. Even if we are not to blame for the quarrel, we must go up to the spouse and offer to calmly discuss the conflict situation. And if we are wrong, all the more we should be the first to take a step towards surrender.If the husband does not meet us halfway and does not want to enter into a dialogue, we will not put pressure on him. Apparently, it has not cooled down yet. Has it been sulking for too long? Well, so don't insist on talking. We will write him a letter, setting out in it all our considerations about the scandal. This is a good way to put up. And we will be able to coherently submit thoughts, and the husband will be able to delve into them and think it over well. Well, if he finally spoke up, in order to relieve the tension that usually arises at the beginning of a conversation, we use not only words, but also gentle touches, gentle strokes, light kisses.
If this beech does not give up its position in any way and continues to be silent for that day, you will have to go to great lengths and prepare some kind of surprise for him. Just don't meet your loved one half-naked from work or in sexy lingerie. Men do not really like it when their wives try to win over them with the help of sex. This is somewhat offensive, because it hints that the animal instinct in the stronger sex prevails over everything else. And, whatever one may say, it is vulgar. Say, here's my body in return for a good attitude. Therefore, even if the husband loses his head, burning with desire, after sex he will again feel irritated. And the faithful will have to be courted and reassured again.
A gourmet dinner will be a nice surprise. You can cook it at home, or you can invite your spouse to a good restaurant. And there already, to gentle music, quietly say to him: "I love you so much!" It is unlikely that a husband will not thaw in such an atmosphere. Let's dance together, look into each other's eyes, hold hands and keep quiet. After dinner, let's go home and indulge in frantic caresses. And let's forget about what happened a couple of days ago. After all, in spite of everything, we are still close. So love is still alive. We must take care of it, and not destroy it systematically, swearing over an unwashed plate and a full trash can.
